It's a Sin - review

[ladymuck]

Just realised my nephew is in your target demographic. He was 21 on Christmas Eve just gone. Single. He seems to have gone for lads more his age though. That was his first two boyfriends, maybe he's up for trying out an older model.

Anyway, it'll be him I'll be tapping up for bar recommendations when we do our big gay night out. Knowing him he'll think "if auntie LM is paying, I'll tag along too!"

[NotAllThere]

Are you happy going into any bars on your own? This is something I hated for many years and would not be happy going in alone if I didn't know for sure I had someone already in there to meet. It doesn't help that I'm not a fan of solo drinking.

I also didn't like eating out on my own, lunches or dinners. I would always get a sandwich takeaway at lunch and eat elsewhere. Dinner would be room service if I had to dine alone when away from home.

So I started on a programme of self improvement! I made myself go to a cafe and have a sit down meal. I did do the cliche thing of taking a book or newspaper (and still do sometimes). Where possible I would pick a table that afforded some privacy or at the very least wasn't positioned in the middle of the establishment. I then moved onto places that did dinner as well as day time food, got familiar with them in a safe time of day and then tried them of an evening. Those places also served drinks so I also got more used to ordering drinks alone.

I am not a fan of pubs on my own, but am ok with it, but I am very comfortable sitting at the bar in a cocktail or wine bar. I still don't very much enjoy sitting at a table drinking alone so I find the distraction of watching the bar staff at work takes my mind off the solo aspect.

Perhaps if you try not to think of a gay bar as a gay bar but just another place to get a drink then it might be easier?

I used to hide away. Now (hah!) I just go to whereever I feel like. I enter a pub (gay or not) and order a drink. I'll talk to anyone, but I gently rebuff any come-ons (hah! as if).

Unless you're gay, you don't want to be going into a gay sauna. Trust me on this one

I think what you've got there is the gay swingers' saunas, as opposed to the straight swingers' saunas.

In the "no one cares" saunas, it would certainly be frowned up.

[GJABS]

Just realised my nephew is in your target demographic. He was 21 on Christmas Eve just gone. Single. He seems to have gone for lads more his age though. That was his first two boyfriends, maybe he's up for trying out an older model.

Anyway, it'll be him I'll be tapping up for bar recommendations when we do our big gay night out. Knowing him he'll think "if auntie LM is paying, I'll tag along too!"

Haha brilliant

But you know, there's no way I'd dare try seducing this nephew of yours - for if it went wrong, it might upset you - and you might try to get me banned on here!

[vetran]

Haha brilliant

But you know, there's no way I'd dare try seducing this nephew of yours - for if it went wrong, it might upset you - and you might remove parts of me I like.

LM strikes me as more direct!

[GJABS]

LM strikes me as more direct!

Well there is that too. But a banning's far worse! lol

[SueEllen]

Haha brilliant

But you know, there's no way I'd dare try seducing this nephew of yours - for if it went wrong, it might upset you - and you might try to get me banned on here!

Just be careful it isn't the other way round.

[GJABS]

Just be careful it isn't the other way round.

You mean if I had a 21-year old nephew I could send over to LM? She'd eat him alive!

[ladymuck]

You mean if I had a 21-year old nephew I could send over to LM? She'd eat him alive!

Nah. I like older men. You're more at risk than some kid

Sweet dreams with that nightmare running amok!

[vetran]

You mean if I had a 21-year old nephew I could send over to LM? She'd eat him alive!

What a way to go!!!

[xoggoth]

Nah. I like older men

Cor. How old?