Splitting the Bills

[MaryPoppins]

I bring in 90% of the income and pay 90% of the joint expenses, so both. This is totally fair. We even sat down and talked about it when I started contracting (i.e. I got out and earn most of the money, she looks after the home side). I don't mind doing this.

I do moan about her not getting housework done (call me old fashioned! haha), maybe i'm just expecting too much.

I don't think so. You are fulfilling your side of the agreement; why shouldn't she.

[MarillionFan]

Salaries and dividends minus pocket money goes into one pot and gets spent/saved appropriately.

We are a family. That's how it works.

Feck that. You should have your own accounts and pay into a central account from that, or one of you puts in more than the other. That way you can't fall out over money as opposed to one person spending more from the joint account on crap than the other.

[kingcook]

I don't think so. You are fulfilling your side of the agreement; why shouldn't she.

I will get a written contract drawn up. It won't be IR35 friendly though. She'll be under my control doing as I say, there will be MOO (she'll be expected to provide a service and i'll be expected to pay for it!), and she will not be allowed to send in a sub.

Wait a minute, ditch the last part... she can get a friend in if she likes

[Churchill]

Feck that. You should have your own accounts and pay into a central account from that, or one of you puts in more than the other. That way you can't fall out over money as opposed to one person spending more from the joint account on crap than the other.

Not everyone has your crap distrusting existence.

Hope that helps but actually I don't give a tulip.

[xoggoth]

We just bunged everything in joint accounts and never bothered who paid what. Apart from 3 years with patchy contract work I think I paid in more and spent less (I found an totally unused popcorn maker in the garage today, WTF did she buy that for?) but was never money oriented enough to care.

[EternalOptimist]

we have seperate accounts. ten years ago we worked out the joint costs, and we worked out that £110 a week was a bit over
so we settled with that, and decided to review it when it had gone about 5 years as a little bit under

which is about now.

to be honest, I have not had money worries for donkeys years now, so I am not anussed about bailing her out, or the kids. if they need it. Its a nice situation to be in, in a billy-big-bollocks sort of way

[vetran]

Given that the post I was responding to referenced the wife looking after the house/kids, yet feeling bad about 'not contributing', I was merely pointing out that she does contribute.

I did also dare to add my own opinion in, which is that looking after a house and children is a very, very demanding job.

Nice capitalisation, by the way.

I realise that, I just thought I would prick the Halo that always seems to form around being a female 'Home Maker' it is always made out as the hardest job in the world. Trust me there are far harder ones both emotionally & physically.

I was on the phone & IM as well it was the best I could manage sorry!

[mudskipper]

I realise that, I just thought I would prick the Halo that always seems to form around being a female 'Home Maker' it is always made out as the hardest job in the world. Trust me there are far harder ones both emotionally & physically.

I was on the phone & IM as well it was the best I could manage sorry!

It's hard in that it's boring as hell for most people, whether male or female, with sod all in the way of remuneration, time off, or thanks.

[cojak]

we have seperate accounts. ten years ago we worked out the joint costs, and we worked out that £110 a week was a bit over
so we settled with that, and decided to review it when it had gone about 5 years as a little bit under

which is about now.

to be honest, I have not had money worries for donkeys years now, so I am not anussed about bailing her out, or the kids. if they need it. Its a nice situation to be in, in a billy-big-bollocks sort of way

We do it that way too. One joint account that we both bung money into as the way to pay the bills.

[AtW]

All that joint account, no prenup expected stuff are just creating peer pressure that leads to unnecessary bitter divorces - marriage certificate should not be granted without fully agreed divorce plan in the event if the worst happens.