Divorce while a contractor?

[SallyAnne]

Why do you keep making this a sexist thing?

If a man is married and has an affair and she does crazy things then he must share some of the blame.

She hasn't had an affair!!!!!

[Platypus]

But it is a fact that children raised by 2 parents, on the whole, do far better than 1 parent families.

Plus, being a weekend Dad is not ideal - I've missed so much of my kids growing up, reading bedtime stories, helping with homework, etc. It sucks balls. I resent that my ex had the chance to do these things, but spent most of the time in an alcoholic haze, while I didn't have that chance much though I wanted it. It still makes me very angry indeed.

[sasguru]

I'd be VERY interested to hear how you'd react if Mr SA had a "special" lady friend in whom he confided all his hopes, fears and dreams, exchanged explicit text messages and phone calls. I'm sure you'd be just fine with it, especially when he announces that in fact he wants to divorce you.

I'd be interested in your answer to this question, SA.

[Platypus]

She hasn't had an affair!!!!!

Erm, did you bother to read my link?
http://www.relationship-institute.co...article_ID=156

According to Relate, an emotional affair is just an affair without the sex, and is just as damaging to a relationship as a full on sexual affair.

[SallyAnne]

Erm, when she asks for a divorce, as Mrs pleomax has now requested.

I'd be VERY interested to hear how you'd react if Mr SA had a "special" lady friend in whom he confided all his hopes, fears and dreams, exchanged explicit text messages and phone calls. I'm sure you'd be just fine with it, especially when he announces that in fact he wants to divorce you.

My husband HAS got female friends - I dont know what he says to them like, cause I dont go round reading his phone!
And I grew up with blokes - one of my very best mates is a bloke, and yes I do tell him things about my feelings and stuff. Cause he's my mate!
I flirt with some people on here too - does that make me an adulterous?

She's asked for a divorce now - NOT at the time. If you read his posts again, he read her phone, then got the knife out, then explained about the texts. THEN started accusing her of going out the next night to meet up with someone.

This has clearly gone on for ages. It's only NOW that she wants a divorce! And I'm not bloody suprised quite frankly! Unless he just hasn't explained himself very well.
But I find his language odd - there's more to this.

[BrilloPad]

Erm, did you bother to read my link?
http://www.relationship-institute.co...article_ID=156

According to Relate, an emotional affair is just an affair without the sex, and is just as damaging to a relationship as a full on sexual affair.

You beat me to it!

Whether his ex has had sex with another man or not, he is clearly extremely upset that his wife is exchanging flirtatious text messages.

Alas he has vented his anger in the wrong way.

[Pickle2]

I was raised in a one parent family : my father died.

But it is a fact that children raised by 2 parents, on the whole, do far better than 1 parent families.

Fine, buts its hardly being condemd to a "life of misery".

And the stats dont reveal how kids raised by one happy parent fair angainst kids raised by two unhappy parents in a train-wreck of a mariage. My money says that "staying together for the sake of the kids" is a mistake, and a waste of two lives.

[Platypus]

This has clearly gone on for ages.

Clearly the betrayal has gone on for ages.

She's asked for a divorce now - NOT at the time.

She got busted

[BrilloPad]

Fine, buts its hardly being condemd to a "life of misery".

And the stats dont reveal how kids raised by one happy parent fair angainst kids raised by two unhappy parents in a train-wreck of a mariage. My money says that "staying together for the sake of the kids" is a mistake, and a waste of two lives.

Maybe people should actually work at their marriage instead of just throwing it all away?

It is very clearly that Mrs pleomax has not worked at it atall. She has put herself way ahead of the kids.

[NotAllThere]

Maybe people should actually work at their marriage instead of just throwing it all away?

It is very clearly that Mrs pleomax has not worked at it atall. She has put herself way ahead of the kids.

Best order is to put your spouse first, then the kids, then yourself.

...I flirt with some people on here too - does that make me an adulterous?...

Yes, you should be stoned.