Divorce while a contractor?

[SallyAnne]

Yes, you should be stoned.

I often am

[SallyAnne]

Maybe people should actually work at their marriage instead of just throwing it all away?

Why?

You only get one life, why not stay with someone in a loving union until that love dies.
Why must you stay forever? Even when miserable?

[Cyberman]

Why?

You only get one life, why not stay with someone in a loving union until that love dies.
Why must you stay forever? Even when miserable?

You don't have to stay forever, but to break up when the kids are so young is deplorable and totally irresponsible. No wonder our society is in such a mess.

[SallyAnne]

You don't have to stay forever, but to break up when the kids are so young is deplorable and totally irresponsible. No wonder our society is in such a mess.

Did your parents stay together Cyber?

[TheBigD]

Why?

You only get one life, why not stay with someone in a loving union until that love dies.
Why must you stay forever? Even when miserable?

I think the point he was making was to work at your marriage so that you're not miserable anymore, thus providing a stable environment to your children.

I do agree with you however that there is probably more to this story than has been revealed. If I found those sort of texts on my wifes phone, I'd be extremely angry, but taking out a knife and self harming? This sounds like it's the culmination of some long running problems and I really think the OP should seek some professional help.

[FSM with Cheddar]

Why?

You only get one life, why not stay with someone in a loving union until that love dies.
Why must you stay forever? Even when miserable?

That's not what we are getting at. If there is a chance that the relationship can recover, so that they are both happy and there is love in the relationship then that must shirely be better than breaking up. If it can't be fixed, then fair enough. But at least they can say they tried.

[Cyberman]

Did your parents stay together Cyber?

My parents have been married for 57 years. Personally, I wouldn't recommend it.

[SallyAnne]

If I found those sort of texts on my wifes phone, I'd be extremely angry

I dont think he ever said what the texts said exactly. All he said really was that she had a friend who paid her compliments.

[ChimpMaster]

Funny how the thread continues even when the OP has given his thanks and has left the building.

Personally, I'm expecting a newspaper story to break about this situation.

[pleomax]

My husband HAS got female friends - I dont know what he says to them like, cause I dont go round reading his phone!

She's asked for a divorce now - NOT at the time. If you read his posts again, he read her phone, then got the knife out, then explained about the texts. THEN started accusing her of going out the next night to meet up with someone.

This has clearly gone on for ages. It's only NOW that she wants a divorce! And I'm not bloody suprised quite frankly! Unless he just hasn't explained himself very well.
But I find his language odd - there's more to this.

No i am not fron venus!
She said she was going out he next day and i was to look after the children.
I asked her if she was going out to meet up with someone else, she said no!
I read her phone messages, she can read mine if she likes I hide nothing from her.
I drunk whiskey and took knife to my arm.

When i spoke to her next day she hadn't gone out and wanted a divorce.

I know what i did is wrong 5 small cuts not very deep and look no worse then if a tomcat had taken a liking to my arm), so i guess you never speed then? I hurt myself, speeding you can hurt others as well!

Yes it is overwhelming, yes i have been trying to keep the money coming in.

Just because someone is different to you does not make them dangerous or a threat, humans are all different that is what makes us special.

Anyway onwards and upwards.