Have you ever cheated on a partner?

[Gibbon]

Totally agree ... a relationship is a relationship. If you don't want to be in it then you bail first out of respect before you dip into another.

Define 'a relationship' is it for instance a one night stand that turns into a second night?

[Fraidycat]

Define 'a relationship' is it for instance a one night stand that turns into a second night?

Surely it is going to start when you agree to be exclusive with each other, before that it cant be considered cheating

[Gibbon]

Surely it is going to start when you agree to be exclusive with each other, before that it cant be considered cheating

Do people actually have that conservation, certainly in my experience it more becomes assumed, unless a proposal is offered.

[vetran]

Do people actually have that conservation, certainly in my experience it more becomes assumed, unless a proposal is offered.

To be fair I have always assumed exclusivity if there is any sense of romance. The one night stand is just that.

Unless we had discussed non monogamy fidelity would be expected by both sides for the duration.

[Whorty]

Define 'a relationship' is it for instance a one night stand that turns into a second night?

It's for each couple to decide what they mean by relationship, but for me a one night stand is not as there would be no expectation to see that person again.

FWB may not be either, so long as both understand that it's none exclusive

And that is probably the crux - if one, or the other, expects exclusive then either the other person ends the relationship or agrees to be exclusive too. To know your lover wants/expects exclusive but you carry on playing the field is, for me, cheating.

[Paralytic]

All this talk of what is and what isn't a relationship is interesting (but best left to mumsnet) so can we at least all agree that anyone who did not choose option 4 is lying to themselves (even if it is a contrarian lie).

Guaranteed charting shouts at the moment of climax: "Urgh, my stochastic indicators have indicated a moving average convergence. It's time to get out!"

[Whorty]

All this talk of what is and what isn't a relationship is interesting (but best left to mumsnet) so can we at least all agree that anyone who did not choose option 4 is lying to themselves (even if it is a contrarian lie).

Guaranteed charting shouts at the moment of climax: "I've just crossed the 10 day moving average"

Interesting ... so you think only Mums are concerned by what defines a relationship? I'd be kind of hoping that by that stage they'd already know, and the father of her kid(s) is on board with it

I wonder if Scoots draws a graph for his partner?

[Paralytic]

Interesting ... so you think only Mums are concerned by what defines a relationship? I'd be kind of hoping that by that stage they'd already know, and the father of her kid(s) is on board with it

Interesting ... so you think only Mums post on mumsnet

[d000hg]

I don't see any difference between a partner and a spouse, not having ever married but have had a few long term relationships.

'partner' can be very vague anything from "this person I've been dating a few times" to "we've been together decades, longer than our married friends, we just don't want the formal marriage bit". Although generally I guess people use partner as shorthand for "long term partner".

[courtg9000]

No comment.