DIY divorce

[d000hg]

Yes, and it also needs NOT to be viewed as a life-long commitment.

If it's viewed as a proper contract, you would have a finite end date (say 5-7 years) with exit provision to be considered (including what to do with the house, the dog and the kids).

Then towards of the contract date both parties can decide to extend the original contract or exit using pre-agreed procedures.

This would be the sensible approach, I reckon.

You can do this already. It's called having a boyfriend.

[vetran]

Yes, and it also needs NOT to be viewed as a life-long commitment.

If it's viewed as a proper contract, you would have a finite end date (say 5-7 years) with exit provision to be considered (including what to do with the house, the dog and the kids).

Then towards of the contract date both parties can decide to extend the original contract or exit using pre-agreed procedures.

This would be the sensible approach, I reckon.

commitment issues then?

[doodab]

You can do this already. It's called having a boyfriend.

Exactly. Marriage is supposed to be an irreversible merger, not a contract to outsource cooking, cleaning and release of sexual tension for a fixed term.

[original PM]

nope

just happy to call out a moaner when I see one, DGAF about you

can you spot a when you see one?

[Gibbon]

Feck me there's some moaning whinge bags on here. People just need to man up. I've been through all this, wife nobbing best friend whilst I was in the Falklands etc. I ended giving her the house and all the savings to get a clean break, but importantly kept my pension.

Just do the right thing by the kids and feck the rest. I paid CSA for 14 years and never missed nor missed a contact visit, always on time, fecked off a few PMs though when leaving on a Friday. But I told them that their bad planning didn't mean my kids missed out.

Actually all this got me a lot of sex with single mums who on the main were having trouble with emotionally incontinent, unreliable and selfish exs. I stayed away from the needy ones but a lot of the others became pleasant shag buddies.

I'm married again, but this time to a strong independent woman with morals.

I never retaliated to the many jibes and provocations apart from once inadvertantly. I was picking the kids up to take them to Barbados for my brothers wedding and she moaned that I had never took her there! "That's because I'm now with a women who gets off her backside and works!" I replied............

[Troll]

Yes, and it also needs NOT to be viewed as a life-long commitment.

If it's viewed as a proper contract, you would have a finite end date (say 5-7 years) with exit provision to be considered (including what to do with the house, the dog and the kids).

Then towards of the contract date both parties can decide to extend the original contract or exit using pre-agreed procedures.

This would be the sensible approach, I reckon.

Surely a life long commitment works in a females favour - her looks (and body) alter after childbirth and the temptation to trade her in for a younger model as things head South would be acute

[Dallas]

Feck me there's some moaning whinge bags on here. People just need to man up. I've been through all this, wife nobbing best friend whilst I was in the Falklands etc. I ended giving her the house and all the savings to get a clean break, but importantly kept my pension.

Just do the right thing by the kids and feck the rest. I paid CSA for 14 years and never missed nor missed a contact visit, always on time, fecked off a few PMs though when leaving on a Friday. But I told them that their bad planning didn't mean my kids missed out.

Actually all this got me a lot of sex with single mums who on the main were having trouble with emotionally incontinent, unreliable and selfish exs. I stayed away from the needy ones but a lot of the others became pleasant shag buddies.

I'm married again, but this time to a strong independent woman with morals.

I never retaliated to the many jibes and provocations apart from once inadvertantly. I was picking the kids up to take them to Barbados for my brothers wedding and she moaned that I had never took her there! "That's because I'm now with a women who gets off her backside and works!" I replied............

[Troll]

I'm married again, but this time to a strong independent woman with morals.

Have you tried the Falklands (or equiv.) test again?

[Gibbon]

Have you tried the Falklands (or equiv.) test again?

I have worked away for extended periods, but no not quite the same length or distance.

The affair though had started before the Falklands, I used to work nights every other week and was away for short periods etc. The divorce papers were served whilst I was in the Falklands.

I was a lot more circumspect the second time around and wasn't just led by my cock!

[mudskipper]

Perhaps you gentlemen should:

a) Choose your wife more carefully in the first instance
b) When kids come along, ensure things are 50/50 - that includes sacrificing career for sleepness nights / childcare.

The truth is that the one high earner model means that most couples are better off. But if you're happily carrying on working in the same way as you did before kids whilst she puts her career on hold or fits work round sick kids, school runs and the like, don't come crying when she needs financial support when it all goes tits up.