What is wrong with me?

[darmstadt]

What wimps! I've been travelling a lot and living in hotels for 12 odd years now then partying hard at weekends and practically bugger all holidays. I will admit that now I should cut down as I'm at least 10 years older than Suity and do have the occasional ache and pain but I think thats more age than work and travel. Basically all you need to do is enjoy yourself and not give a **** (much) and you'll be fine, oh, and invoice...




(Trouble is, I can see at least another 10 years of this. My old man who is over 70 has been doing this for 30 years now all over the world and he's still going strong.)

[Positive Attachment]

Hi, I saw this thread about you being ill and not knowing what it is, and thought I would sign up to the forum and help you. I hope my advice will be of assistance; it comes from experience.

What I want to tell you is that there is indeed a diagnosis for what is wrong, but it is not something any hospital will be able to tell you, or solve for you. You could spend thousands of pounds privately seeking an answer, and I promise you; there will be nothing to find.

The answer is that you are in pain. You are in pain for two reasons.

The first reason is that you are away from your family too much. This will make you ill. It will make you even more ill if you are using the 'time away' as a crutch of any kind to handle your family. Only you know the answer to this, I am just offering thoughts, but I promise, being away from them will cause you much internal stress which will manifest itself in many ways, including the ways you have listed.

The second, and underlying reason you are in pain might be a little harder to accept, I know because I have experience of it. So please take this as it is, someone on the internet offering help.

Alcohol is an addiction. Believe it or not, it is a good thing that you have it. Your addiction to alcohol is telling you that something is wrong in your life, and that you are using it to mask pain from earlier in your life.

The period in your life you are masking pain from is your childhood.

It may sound like a cliche, but all serious mental issues we face, and try to cover up, patch over, and ignore with addictions like alcohol, gambling, porn, over thinking, shopping, drugs are down to the fact that in our infant and childhood years; we were damaged by our parents and the way they raised us.

As this is my first, and maybe only post here, I know that this will be moderated, and that it may not even make it as a reply. As I want this post to get to you, and to help you, I cant write any more about the childhood aspect. What I will do, is suggest that you look into the following book, and if you feel like starting on the path to understanding your pain, maybe read it at a library; and then purchase it.

The book is called Homecoming by John Bradshaw.

I hope this is of help to you, be near your family, and start to understand the underlying cause of your pain. You will find the answers, and this will help you feel much better. Thanks to the moderators in advance if they let this through.

Good luck

[MaryPoppins]

What wimps! I've been travelling a lot and living in hotels for 12 odd years now then partying hard at weekends and practically bugger all holidays. I will admit that now I should cut down as I'm at least 10 years older than Suity and do have the occasional ache and pain but I think thats more age than work and travel. Basically all you need to do is enjoy yourself and not give a **** (much) and you'll be fine, oh, and invoice...




(Trouble is, I can see at least another 10 years of this. My old man who is over 70 has been doing this for 30 years now all over the world and he's still going strong.)

Do you have kids?

[OwlHoot]

What wimps! I've been travelling a lot and living in hotels for 12 odd years now then partying hard at weekends and practically bugger all holidays. I will admit that now I should cut down as I'm at least 10 years older than Suity and do have the occasional ache and pain but I think thats more age than work and travel. Basically all you need to do is enjoy yourself and not give a **** (much) and you'll be fine, oh, and invoice...

(Trouble is, I can see at least another 10 years of this. My old man who is over 70 has been doing this for 30 years now all over the world and he's still going strong.)

WHS - My father is 92, and this weekend he's off on a 7 hour drive to the Lake District, with my 85 year old Mother doing the navigating as his peepers aren't what they used to be.

[SimonMac]

Dad's Life Stress Exposure Can Affect Offspring Brain Development, Penn Study Finds

[suityou01]

Hi, I saw this thread about you being ill and not knowing what it is, and thought I would sign up to the forum and help you. I hope my advice will be of assistance; it comes from experience.

What I want to tell you is that there is indeed a diagnosis for what is wrong, but it is not something any hospital will be able to tell you, or solve for you. You could spend thousands of pounds privately seeking an answer, and I promise you; there will be nothing to find.

The answer is that you are in pain. You are in pain for two reasons.

The first reason is that you are away from your family too much. This will make you ill. It will make you even more ill if you are using the 'time away' as a crutch of any kind to handle your family. Only you know the answer to this, I am just offering thoughts, but I promise, being away from them will cause you much internal stress which will manifest itself in many ways, including the ways you have listed.

The second, and underlying reason you are in pain might be a little harder to accept, I know because I have experience of it. So please take this as it is, someone on the internet offering help.

Alcohol is an addiction. Believe it or not, it is a good thing that you have it. Your addiction to alcohol is telling you that something is wrong in your life, and that you are using it to mask pain from earlier in your life.

The period in your life you are masking pain from is your childhood.

It may sound like a cliche, but all serious mental issues we face, and try to cover up, patch over, and ignore with addictions like alcohol, gambling, porn, over thinking, shopping, drugs are down to the fact that in our infant and childhood years; we were damaged by our parents and the way they raised us.

As this is my first, and maybe only post here, I know that this will be moderated, and that it may not even make it as a reply. As I want this post to get to you, and to help you, I cant write any more about the childhood aspect. What I will do, is suggest that you look into the following book, and if you feel like starting on the path to understanding your pain, maybe read it at a library; and then purchase it.

The book is called Homecoming by John Bradshaw.

I hope this is of help to you, be near your family, and start to understand the underlying cause of your pain. You will find the answers, and this will help you feel much better. Thanks to the moderators in advance if they let this through.

Good luck

Dude, you seriously expect me to take any of that seriously?

You've never met me and yet assume you know more about me than my counselor did?

On your bike pal.

[cojak]

WHS - My father is 92, and this weekend he's off on a 7 hour drive to the Lake District, with my 85 year old Mother doing the navigating as his peepers aren't what they used to be.

I do hope your Dad's peepers can read a number plate from 20 metres.

Otherwise I'll wait until the coast is clear before driving in the area...

[Old Greg]

Hi, I saw this thread about you being ill and not knowing what it is, and thought I would sign up to the forum and help you. I hope my advice will be of assistance; it comes from experience.

What I want to tell you is that there is indeed a diagnosis for what is wrong, but it is not something any hospital will be able to tell you, or solve for you. You could spend thousands of pounds privately seeking an answer, and I promise you; there will be nothing to find.

The answer is that you are in pain. You are in pain for two reasons.

The first reason is that you are away from your family too much. This will make you ill. It will make you even more ill if you are using the 'time away' as a crutch of any kind to handle your family. Only you know the answer to this, I am just offering thoughts, but I promise, being away from them will cause you much internal stress which will manifest itself in many ways, including the ways you have listed.

The second, and underlying reason you are in pain might be a little harder to accept, I know because I have experience of it. So please take this as it is, someone on the internet offering help.

Alcohol is an addiction. Believe it or not, it is a good thing that you have it. Your addiction to alcohol is telling you that something is wrong in your life, and that you are using it to mask pain from earlier in your life.

The period in your life you are masking pain from is your childhood.

It may sound like a cliche, but all serious mental issues we face, and try to cover up, patch over, and ignore with addictions like alcohol, gambling, porn, over thinking, shopping, drugs are down to the fact that in our infant and childhood years; we were damaged by our parents and the way they raised us.

As this is my first, and maybe only post here, I know that this will be moderated, and that it may not even make it as a reply. As I want this post to get to you, and to help you, I cant write any more about the childhood aspect. What I will do, is suggest that you look into the following book, and if you feel like starting on the path to understanding your pain, maybe read it at a library; and then purchase it.

The book is called Homecoming by John Bradshaw.

I hope this is of help to you, be near your family, and start to understand the underlying cause of your pain. You will find the answers, and this will help you feel much better. Thanks to the moderators in advance if they let this through.

Good luck

Why are you such an angry person?

[Old Greg]

Dude, you seriously expect me to take any of that seriously?

You've never met me and yet assume you know more about me than my counselor did?

On your bike pal.

Didn't your therapist top herself?

[cojak]

Dude, you seriously expect me to take any of that seriously?

You've never met me and yet assume you know more about me than my counselor did?

On your bike pal.

You're probably in denial suity (or derhine, which I guess is closer...)