Victimisation at work.

[d000hg]

I didn't know Brillo was 'doing Ironmen' !


I thought Brillo was in a heterosexual relationship ?

He has children doesn't he.



Milan.

Shush Milan, you saw how Bolshie gets all Bolshie about people not taking his thread seriously.

[escapeUK]

Leave or fight back. Those are the two options, anything else is delaying the other two. And yes it is a good lesson in life, we can either fight life's adversities or we can give up and walk away. What do you want your lad to be a fighter or a quitter.

[MyUserName]

Surely the victim has three options:

Leave and forget about it

Report the bully through formal channels

Handle the bully somehow through informal channels (I would advise against this but others have done it)


Does he shy away from confrontation? If so, take option 1.
Is he prepared to fight? If so, option 2.

[milanbenes]

Shush Milan, you saw how Bolshie gets all Bolshie about people not taking his thread seriously.

ok, but seriously,

is Brillo 'doing' Ironmen ?

Milan.

[NickWallace87]

Is alive and well. My lad who works in a retail operation is on the receiving end of a witch's outright victimisation. You name it, she's doing it, bullying, victimisation, sexual discrimination, the lot.

Not so long ago, he was won an award with his company for an outstanding year. But then his management team moved on and a new manager (female) came in.

Within 3 months of her taking over (its her first managerial position in this country), she's doing everything she can to destroy his career with disciplinary cases here, there and everywhere. Even his deputy manager has said the treatment is appalling but does nothing to help.

I've advised him to join the union to hopefully get some protection for what its worth. He's going to have to change jobs because its only going to end one way (unless she gets run over by a bus).

Thing is, I just dont understand how an organisation can reward someone for a year's outstanding performance then, take no notice when trumped up issues suddenly arise against someone who previously had an unblemished work record.

I honestly feel like going down there and giving her a taste of Bolshie's right fist. Its pretty gut wrenching seeing your kids being treated like this and not being able to do much.

I would definitely get your son to join the Union. I used to work at a large retailer and actually became an in store union rep for USDAW. When he joins the union tell him to ask his rep to review his HR file, it's almost a guarantee that the managers will not have carried out the "necessary next steps" on any warnings and they will therefore be invalid and removed!

The majority of the managers do not have a clue when it come to following procedure and that's when the union comes in. If he then raises his concerns direct to the union and starts the grievance procedure I'm sure that will put a stop to all the hassle he has been having.

Trust me I have been there and helped numerous people with this. When it works he will not get any bother again I'm sure

[d000hg]

Leave or fight back. Those are the two options, anything else is delaying the other two. And yes it is a good lesson in life, we can either fight life's adversities or we can give up and walk away. What do you want your lad to be a fighter or a quitter.

Leaving is not always the same as giving up. A general who doesn't know when to retreat is a poor general.
Being able to fight is valuable, feeling like it's a failure not to is dumb.

[fullyautomatix]

Yeah right, so your son is outstanding, blah blah blah and is being victimised etc etc. What is the true story Bolshie ? I bet he is a lazy fecker who is refusing to do the job his manager is telling him to do. We only have your side of the story here and I bet the other side of the story would be entirely different.

[Scoobos]

Speak to ACAS.

Personally though, I reckon this is normal, especially in retail starting out.

My first 2 years in banking were VERY similar to this story, but as horrible as it sounds I don't think you should interfere - let him learn to fight his own battles and take his own falls - its the only way he'll grow as a person.

(I got I.T stuff chucked at me by a female director!)

I spoke to ACAS and left the company after using its "whistleblowing policy" to grass on her - she got fired / pushed and crawled back under her rock at KPMG.

[escapeUK]

Leaving is not always the same as giving up. A general who doesn't know when to retreat is a poor general.
Being able to fight is valuable, feeling like it's a failure not to is dumb.

Its a retreat if you return to fight later, if not its giving up.

[milanbenes]

the Blair generation have arrived

I thought this was a contractor's site

contractors are mean't to be business men

think like business men then

Milan.