Reply to: Children with ADHD. Real or bad parenting?

[courtg9000]

Looks like we're going to have to become hippies in the countryside & I may have to prostitute myself again with some on the side contracting for easy cash. Anyone hiring mid 50 year olds now???

Not far off 50, been medically retired for just under 3 years and still get at least one offer to return to work most weeks, granted its more on the commercial than the tech side but I still the odd IT agent calling 10 years after I left the tech side.

[BlueSharp]

Sorry to read this MF, I hope the move has the positive impact you're family desperately needs. My nephew has ADHD and vocal tics. Completely failed by the school system, nice and calm at home.

[vetran]

Does he have a sign?

No - then he's stalking regardless.

who is regardless?

[SueEllen]

Is it stalking if he lives by the bins on my drive? Or is it just squatting?

Does he have a sign?

No - then he's stalking regardless.

[ladymuck]

Stalker!

Is it stalking if he lives by the bins on my drive? Or is it just squatting?

[northernladuk]

Stalker!

I asked nicely!!

[SueEllen]

Dunno.. just because...

Stalker!

[northernladuk]

Why?

Dunno.. just because...

[vetran]

Why?

sometimes only a video will do! Probably the 1st is NSFW though I suspect NLUK's bum is more pimply.

[ladymuck]

Can I have one as well?

Why?

[northernladuk]

I have nothing useful to contribute, not having any experience of what you're going through, but I can give you a

Can I have one as well?

[tazdevil]

I wouldn't recommend taking the whole responsibility on yourself as at some point you won't be there and what will be will be. Best to find the right institution for him earlier rather than later. I saw the same with my younger brother who made catastrophic decisions and died a few months before my father who'd gone into a care home with dementia after spending his life supporting him

[ladymuck]

I have nothing useful to contribute, not having any experience of what you're going through, but I can give you a

[northernladuk]

The most frustrating thing about this original thread was that I played through all of the combinations of where this would go over the years with the behavioural issues occuring from his ASD/ADHD/ and PDA causing extreme anxiety. Jail, suicide or sectioning was what I thought was going to happen. That may seem an odd thing to preclude but that was my whole person & career was based on (analytics/modelling & prediction). I think of all outcomes and how to move something in the direction required.

Sorry to hear. On a side note does he excel in anything? My stepson is on the spectrum which makes him socially akward and can't do the simplest of tasks around the house yet he's nailed a 1st class in Maths without lifting a finger this year. He's more comfortable doing the GCHQ quiz than he is holding a conversation so we've got something to focus on. Your lad show any areas he excels in? It's highly possible it's not something obvious like maths and could be something he's not even tried yet.

Looks like we're going to have to become hippies in the countryside & I may have to prostitute myself

I don't think that is going to work too well if you don't mind me saying...

again with some on the side contracting for easy cash. Anyone hiring mid 50 year olds now???

Ah.. right.. as you were..

53 year old still doing OK if that helps.

Chin up and carry on fella.

[saptastic]

Best of luck MarillionFan

It is definitely one of the hardest things to manage - and not takeover everything - as the education sector is so structured.
For 90% of the kids they get through the school years with the odd up and down.
But those who struggle with social anxiety or outside of the mainstream it is a difficult time.
Good luck with the homeschooling. There are more important parts to life than academic results through a structured school route.