Reply to: Have you ever cheated on a partner?

[Whorty]

Next you'll be saying only contractors post on CUK

I was so tempted to say that too

Fair point ....

[ladymuck]

Next you'll be saying only contractors post on CUK

I was so tempted to say that too

[Paralytic]

Yes.

Next you'll be saying only contractors post on CUK

[Whorty]

Interesting ... so you think only Mums post on mumsnet

Yes.

[Whorty]

Do people actually have that conservation, certainly in my experience it more becomes assumed, unless a proposal is offered.

Yes.

[OwlHoot]

Due to over-subscription, my partner had to join a different team on one of our quiz nights, and I'd had the foresight to print out some Wikipedia pages showing national flags and the inevitable flag question came up!

So, yes, I guess I have!

[vetran]

FTFY

remind me of the nationality / origin of your darling wife?

[Zigenare]

That just describes most northern Irish women...

FTFY

[ladymuck]

That just describes most northern women...

I ain't northern.

[d000hg]

Because she is a woman who takes no nonsense and stands up for herself.

That just describes most northern women...

[SueEllen]

Never come across that one, in fact it's very common trades or salespeople use the term partner to avoid offending by suggesting you're married!
Maybe they think you're gay for other reasons

Because she is a woman who takes no nonsense and stands up for herself.

Gay men and lesbians have no issue saying husband or wife where appropriate.

[vetran]

It might but only in a small minority. Well unless you allow 'nasty' to include someone who runs out on their family rather than abuse, which is how I read it? Where we live - quite a poor area - it's certainly the case that your standard two-parent family is not the norm, and even mothers of young children are not generally living with the father who is now living with someone on the next street over.

Yep coercion mental and physical abuse (both sexes) is horribly common. As are affairs to escape a situation, I know of a few people that played away to sabotage a marriage / relationship they weren't willing to work on. That I consider nasty. Have the balls to have the conversation not secretly shag other people its only fair.

Abandonment far too common both sides as is pump & dump - leaving a pregnant mum before birth.
Death also was more common than I expected I know of 2 fathers that died when their kids were young. One heart defect and the other suicide.

[d000hg]

I use partner to mean the person I am in a meaningful relationship with. I have no intention of getting married so will never have a spouse.

Interestingly, because I say 'partner' many people assume I am referring to a same sex squeeze. But I'm not 12 so I'm not going to say 'boyfriend'.

Never come across that one, in fact it's very common trades or salespeople use the term partner to avoid offending by suggesting you're married!
Maybe they think you're gay for other reasons

[d000hg]

Unfortunately about half of mums aren't with the father of their last baby and even fewer who are with the father of all their babies.

This may be because the father is dead, nuts or nasty.

It might but only in a small minority. Well unless you allow 'nasty' to include someone who runs out on their family rather than abuse, which is how I read it? Where we live - quite a poor area - it's certainly the case that your standard two-parent family is not the norm, and even mothers of young children are not generally living with the father who is now living with someone on the next street over.

[ladymuck]

'partner' can be very vague anything from "this person I've been dating a few times" to "we've been together decades, longer than our married friends, we just don't want the formal marriage bit". Although generally I guess people use partner as shorthand for "long term partner".

I use partner to mean the person I am in a meaningful relationship with. I have no intention of getting married so will never have a spouse.

Interestingly, because I say 'partner' many people assume I am referring to a same sex squeeze. But I'm not 12 so I'm not going to say 'boyfriend'.