Professional bullying

[Bacchus]

Ask yourself this, how am I doing this to you if both my hands are on your shoulders?

Sorry, I thought I was being bitten by a Mossie, not rogered by "strapon01"

[MarillionFan]

Oh, that old cherry.

Edit: I think I mean chestnut.

Trust you to post in a thread that starts with the letters 'Pro'.

[doomage]

Ask yourself this, how am I doing this to you if both my hands are on your shoulders?

Oh, that old cherry.

Edit: I think I mean chestnut.

No, I think you meant cherry (as in 'popped').

[aussielong]

I'm not a bully but I am certainly aggressive. I have high standards and I work hard, I don't f&@k about. If we are working together there will be a mental battle until I have crushed you with my superior ideas. Then I'll start being nice to you to get you working for me. You will have to be a strong character or I'll be all over you and you will be stressed to f$&k.

My current (weak minded) PM asked me to fix up a report today. I already crushed this person through public arguments in agile standups where this person cannot produce ideas. Im delivering ... bosh bosh bosh - damn, where do these ideas come from??- I live this sh1t, forget it. This PM always comes to my desk and when asking me something goes bright red around the neck. I did the hard analysis work and made sure anyone nearby in power knew i had sussed it. I then explained to the PM one-to-one how they could take my input and fix the report themselves. Too scared to pull me up on it. I should have really taken ownership of the issue to closure.

Young dev sitting next to me is taking so much of a subtle mental beating from me he's developed munchhousen syndrome. Im good cop bad cop within the same conversation. He now treats me like his boss. I'm not his manager. But I've pulled him up on his smart arse work and shown him the real stuff. He's not stupid, he knows who's the real boss.

And I've just been offered a 6 month extension.

[MarillionFan]

I'm not a bully but I am certainly aggressive. I have high standards and I work hard, I don't f&@k about. If we are working together there will be a mental battle until I have crushed you with my superior ideas. Then I'll start being nice to you to get you working for me. You will have to be a strong character or I'll be all over you and you will be stressed to f$&k.

My current (weak minded) PM asked me to fix up a report today. I already crushed this person through public arguments in agile standups where this person cannot produce ideas. Im delivering ... bosh bosh bosh - damn, where do these ideas come from??- I live this sh1t, forget it. This PM always comes to my desk and when asking me something goes bright red around the neck. I did the hard analysis work and made sure anyone nearby in power knew i had sussed it. I then explained to the PM one-to-one how they could take my input and fix the report themselves. Too scared to pull me up on it. I should have really taken ownership of the issue to closure.

Young dev sitting next to me is taking so much of a subtle mental beating from me he's developed munchhousen syndrome. Im good cop bad cop within the same conversation. He now treats me like his boss. I'm not his manager. But I've pulled him up on his smart arse work and shown him the real stuff. He's not stupid, he knows who's the real boss.

And I've just been offered a 6 month extension.

What a load of shiite. You couldn't bully a jellybaby.

[SupremeSpod]

What a load of shiite. You couldn't bully a jellybaby.

SY01 will be along soon to demonstrate.

[cailin maith]

I'm not a bully but I am certainly aggressive. I have high standards and I work hard, I don't f&@k about. If we are working together there will be a mental battle until I have crushed you with my superior ideas. Then I'll start being nice to you to get you working for me. You will have to be a strong character or I'll be all over you and you will be stressed to f$&k.

My current (weak minded) PM asked me to fix up a report today. I already crushed this person through public arguments in agile standups where this person cannot produce ideas. Im delivering ... bosh bosh bosh - damn, where do these ideas come from??- I live this sh1t, forget it. This PM always comes to my desk and when asking me something goes bright red around the neck. I did the hard analysis work and made sure anyone nearby in power knew i had sussed it. I then explained to the PM one-to-one how they could take my input and fix the report themselves. Too scared to pull me up on it. I should have really taken ownership of the issue to closure.

Young dev sitting next to me is taking so much of a subtle mental beating from me he's developed munchhousen syndrome. Im good cop bad cop within the same conversation. He now treats me like his boss. I'm not his manager. But I've pulled him up on his smart arse work and shown him the real stuff. He's not stupid, he knows who's the real boss.

And I've just been offered a 6 month extension.

I'd hate to even work near you, let alone for or with you.

Just 'cos you are good at what you do, doesn't give you free reign to treat other people so poorly.

[SimonMac]

I'm not a bully but I am certainly aggressive. I have high standards and I work hard, I don't f&@k about. If we are working together there will be a mental battle until I have crushed you with my superior ideas. Then I'll start being nice to you to get you working for me. You will have to be a strong character or I'll be all over you and you will be stressed to f$&k.

My current (weak minded) PM asked me to fix up a report today. I already crushed this person through public arguments in agile standups where this person cannot produce ideas. Im delivering ... bosh bosh bosh - damn, where do these ideas come from??- I live this sh1t, forget it. This PM always comes to my desk and when asking me something goes bright red around the neck. I did the hard analysis work and made sure anyone nearby in power knew i had sussed it. I then explained to the PM one-to-one how they could take my input and fix the report themselves. Too scared to pull me up on it. I should have really taken ownership of the issue to closure.

Young dev sitting next to me is taking so much of a subtle mental beating from me he's developed munchhousen syndrome. Im good cop bad cop within the same conversation. He now treats me like his boss. I'm not his manager. But I've pulled him up on his smart arse work and shown him the real stuff. He's not stupid, he knows who's the real boss.

And I've just been offered a 6 month extension.

You are whats commonly known as a ****, more than likely most people would just placate you face to face and do what they want behind your back

[SimonMac]

At clientco we have meetings between senior devs, managemenet and contractors, most times each group has a different opinion on a specific aspect of the project. We leave with some disagreement or no conclusion reached. Then management and senior permies will gather in the office of senior management and not invite the contractors. Decisions are then arrived at which normally result in the worst outcome for the contractors and we are told to simply accept these decisions. To me this feels like a form of professional bullying, perhaps I'm wrong or over reacting but it sure does feel crap.

So a bully to you is someone who doesn't agree with you?!

I am usually brought in because a project has put so much effort in getting something off the ground they forget about what comes next, can thus play catch up. I can and do give my opinion as to what I see if best for the given situation, if they don't agree its fine I will work round what they want and keep invoicing at the same time.

[aussielong]

You are whats commonly known as a ****, more than likely most people would just placate you face to face and do what they want behind your back

I have a track record of delivering hard stuff. Most people in IT, when it comes down to it, cannot actually deliver. I'm not there to make friends, I'm there to solve problems. Everyone benefits. Life is too short.