Relationships - waste of time ?

[janey]

Good point about the s*x part of it, your right surely that goes against what she believes.

I wanted the agreement then to see how things go, she has given me set deadlines for marriage and kids, I hate that. I'm happy to proceed with house as long as the agreement is in place as we both make money.

I just wanted to know others opions, she is adiment I am wrong, the fact that none of her freinds have such agreements with there partner doesnt help.

I hate to say it without offending all the ladies on this site, but on one hand they want equal rights, but on the other hand some also feel they have a right to there partners money, I understand if you have kids but not if its just you and her.

I am pretty much on the verge of pulling out, I feel though for the people we were buying from I hate screwing people around like that. Thing is if I pull out thats us over for good, may be thats the right thing.

like I said before you're girlfriend sounds really scary, if I was you I'd be runing for the hills not getting bound by debt and legalities with her!

and I agree with you on the women wanting equality thing but wanting their share of their partner's money etc etc. If I was to get married and then divorced (no kids) then I would not expect any kind of settlement from the ex. It's different when there are kids involved or if for example the woman has given up her career to become part of his business or something... but even then, if I was to do that I'd want to be offered a job in his business on totally above board terms, proper salary etc etc so I wouldn't expect hand outs then either unless he was sacking me as part of the divorce proceedings!

[Ivor1]

like I said before you're girlfriend sounds really scary, if I was you I'd be runing for the hills not getting bound by debt and legalities with her!

and I agree with you on the women wanting equality thing but wanting their share of their partner's money etc etc. If I was to get married and then divorced (no kids) then I would not expect any kind of settlement from the ex. It's different when there are kids involved or if for example the woman has given up her career to become part of his business or something... but even then, if I was to do that I'd want to be offered a job in his business on totally above board terms, proper salary etc etc so I wouldn't expect hand outs then either unless he was sacking me as part of the divorce proceedings!

Assuming you are a lady ... you sound ideal ... Marry me ?

[Francko]

Assuming you are a lady ... you sound ideal ... Marry me ?

Geeks. Would she talk like this if she really was?

[Ivor1]

Geeks. Would she talk like this if she really was?

Im no Geek, infact I dont like IT, I just find 650 reasons aday for the last 2 years very appealing.

[DaveB]

Todays bit of pop psychology....

She sounds like she want to be in control of the relationship - deadlines for marriage, kids etc. You're trying to excerpt some control of your own, quite rightly in this instance I think, and she doesnt like it. If things have got this far and this is causing the amount of tension it is I'd have a good long think about where your relationship is going.

Yeah, it's scary after 6 years of being together but sometimes you just have to bite the bullet. FWIW I did the same after a 15 year relationship, including 10 years of marriage for much the same reasons. The breakup was long, painfull and unpleasant but ultimately proved to be the right thing to have done.

[Ivor1]

Thanks DaveB I know where your comming from .. I should of walked long ago before it got this messy

[ladymuck]

As my current (maybe soon to be ex) fella says, women don't want equality, they want revenge.

I have to admit that in many cases this is true. All the fight for equal rights appears to have swung the other way and basically become a tool to screw men, and it isn't fair.

I personally think that all the help given to new mothers is a joke. No-one forced them to have children, they did it of their own free will and yet businesses have to provide flexible working hours, keep their jobs open while they take an extended two-year or more maternity leave, provide additional benefits like childcare vouchers, etc etc etc. How is this fair? You choose to have kids, you should find a way to look after them.

Yes, I am female. Yes, I hate children and have no desire to have any. And, no, I will not marry any one of you unless you're loaded with a short life expectancy and I'm included in your will.

[janey]

Thanks DaveB I know where your comming from .. I should of walked long ago before it got this messy

yeah I meant to say before, I wouldn't worry about letting the sellers down. This is part and parcel of buying/selling. Don't take any decision that you're not 100% sure of, especially one as important as this, on the basis that you don't want to upset a thrid party. This is your life you're talking about here.

Oh and yes I am female ... it's getting boring having to keep writing that!
And unless you can get me a visa into Oz then I'm afraid no I can't marry you!

[janey]

As my current (maybe soon to be ex) fella says, women don't want equality, they want revenge.

I have to admit that in many cases this is true. All the fight for equal rights appears to have swung the other way and basically become a tool to screw men, and it isn't fair.

I personally think that all the help given to new mothers is a joke. No-one forced them to have children, they did it of their own free will and yet businesses have to provide flexible working hours, keep their jobs open while they take an extended two-year or more maternity leave, provide additional benefits like childcare vouchers, etc etc etc. How is this fair? You choose to have kids, you should find a way to look after them.

Yes, I am female. Yes, I hate children and have no desire to have any. And, no, I will not marry any one of you unless you're loaded with a short life expectancy and I'm included in your will.

[janey]

Geeks. Would she talk like this if she really was?

Pah!