My eldest daughter is nearly 16, and she has been going out with a boy for about 18 months. He’s a lovely lad, and I’m very happy that she has found someone nice for her first romantic experience.
But, his mum isn’t so nice. She has had it in for my daughter all the way through the relationship, and has tried to stop him seeing her. I’ve no idea why, because they are very good together. We even held a surprise birthday party for him at my place for his 16th, organised by my daughter. His parents did nothing towards it, except to provide the cake.
It all came to a head last week. I was sitting in the dentist’s waiting room when my daughter called me. She was in floods of tears, sobbing uncontrollably, and I couldn’t understand what she was saying. I told her I would speak to her after my appointment.
When I called back she was still too upset to speak. I spoke to her mum, my ex-wife. She told me that they had been round to the boyfriend’s house to try to sort out why his mum was so against my daughter. The BF’s mother lost it, shouting and screaming at my daughter, calling her all the names under the sun. Then she became aggressive and threatening, and ex-wife and daughter beat a hasty retreat. The boy’s father just stood and watched it all happening.
It turns out that the boyfriend’s mother has confiscated his phone, deleted his Facebook account, banned him from using the internet at all, and basically placed him under “house arrest” until September. He is not allowed to see my daughter, nor any of his friends, and is only allowed out of the house to attend his remaining GCSEs.
My daughter spoke to him briefly on the phone after an exam on Monday. They go to different schools so she can’t see him in person. Apparently he said he has a plan. What that involves, he wouldn’t say. He couldn’t speak for long because his mother was waiting outside the school for him to make sure he didn’t go off with his friends.
I’m very upset by all this. We have welcomed him into our life, and his family have turned against my daughter for no apparent reason.
I’m also extremely worried about the boyfriend. I think this treatment amounts to child abuse, and she seems unable to control her anger, so she may turn violent.
I’m not sure what I should do. Should I go round and try to talk to the parents? Should I try to see the boyfriend? Should we report it to Social Services? I’m worried that if we try something like that it might make the situation worse.
But, his mum isn’t so nice. She has had it in for my daughter all the way through the relationship, and has tried to stop him seeing her. I’ve no idea why, because they are very good together. We even held a surprise birthday party for him at my place for his 16th, organised by my daughter. His parents did nothing towards it, except to provide the cake.
It all came to a head last week. I was sitting in the dentist’s waiting room when my daughter called me. She was in floods of tears, sobbing uncontrollably, and I couldn’t understand what she was saying. I told her I would speak to her after my appointment.
When I called back she was still too upset to speak. I spoke to her mum, my ex-wife. She told me that they had been round to the boyfriend’s house to try to sort out why his mum was so against my daughter. The BF’s mother lost it, shouting and screaming at my daughter, calling her all the names under the sun. Then she became aggressive and threatening, and ex-wife and daughter beat a hasty retreat. The boy’s father just stood and watched it all happening.
It turns out that the boyfriend’s mother has confiscated his phone, deleted his Facebook account, banned him from using the internet at all, and basically placed him under “house arrest” until September. He is not allowed to see my daughter, nor any of his friends, and is only allowed out of the house to attend his remaining GCSEs.
My daughter spoke to him briefly on the phone after an exam on Monday. They go to different schools so she can’t see him in person. Apparently he said he has a plan. What that involves, he wouldn’t say. He couldn’t speak for long because his mother was waiting outside the school for him to make sure he didn’t go off with his friends.
I’m very upset by all this. We have welcomed him into our life, and his family have turned against my daughter for no apparent reason.
I’m also extremely worried about the boyfriend. I think this treatment amounts to child abuse, and she seems unable to control her anger, so she may turn violent.
I’m not sure what I should do. Should I go round and try to talk to the parents? Should I try to see the boyfriend? Should we report it to Social Services? I’m worried that if we try something like that it might make the situation worse.
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