Bullying - What would you do?

[rsingh]

You are her dad, you sort it. Don't palm off your responsibilities to others. If you do nothing, it will get worse. You will be the dad that was too much of a wuss to fix a situation. It will get worse.

[suityou01]

she's dead

Seriously?

[Spacecadet]

Seriously?

just go back and edit your post to say did instead of do

[d000hg]

I wondered why people didn't like you...

wake up! assault is assault and nothing justifies that, do you hit wifey when she doesn't polish your bible properly?

Aww, nice to know you're a reasonable person who doesn't descend to personal abuse when they don't agree with someone. You sound 1 step away from joining a lynch mob to smash up the homes of paediatricians.

Seriously, you sound out of order. I'm entitled to express my opinion without getting an earful of hysterical insults. My viewpoint is roughly aligned with EO's, go bite his head off woman. I've never bullied anyone. I was more on the side of those bullied than bullying as a kid. Even so, school-yard bullying isn't assault.

What next, call the police because someone threw a punch in the rugby scrum? Or do you insist your tots do aerobics because "contact sports are violent and thuggish"? Is a wedgie or a chinese burn or a dead arm assult?

As I said, if it's serious then that's different. But 'hitting' could be anything from proper punching to tapping on the head to annoy her. You never see two siblings 'playing', they hit each other all the time? Maybe you can paint a picture of the scenario in your mind, I already explained mine:

My mental image is her on a bus and them rapping her on the head from the seat behind.

[aussielong]

A friend of mine phoned me this evening with this disturbing story:

His 16yo daughter came home from school today, very upset, after 3 guys spent an amusing (for them) few minutes slapping her on the back of the head, repeatedly, unprovoked and out of the blue. Apparently she's upset but not physically damaged.

He phoned the school, related the facts and asked for 'strong action' to be taken.

Of course, the school has its own policies and procedures, but he's tempted to get the police involved (the lads are all 17) as it's technically common assault, and was witnessed.

As a minimum he wants the ringleader expelled (it's a posh school 'innit). But he suspects that suspension for a week will be the worst punishment they'll receive if the school is left to deal with it.

Would you let the school deal with it, demand expulsion using the threat of police involvement, or just call the rozzers?

If she has a brother, get him to sort them out. My sister came home from school crying when she was about 14 (and I was 16) because some lad had been hitting her, not for the first time. I went to his house and knocked on his door inviting him out to hangout. Stupid bully came out too and as soon as we got round the corner I got stuck into him. Landed a couple of punches on his head before he ran back indoors. He never touched her again after that.

[configman]

They teach paras how to find masturbating teenagers? What exactly did you do when you found them that made them stop?

Walked up to them and just hit them - simples and they were not expecting it. Like all bullies cowards on their own.

[SupremeSpod]

They teach paras how to find masturbating teenagers? What exactly did you do when you found them that made them stop?

Para's are only bright enough to remember one instruction at a time.

[EternalOptimist]

If she has a brother, get him to sort them out. My sister came home from school crying when she was about 14 (and I was 16) because some lad had been hitting her, not for the first time. I went to his house and knocked on his door inviting him out to hangout. Stupid bully came out too and as soon as we got round the corner I got stuck into him. Landed a couple of punches on his head before he ran back indoors. He never touched her again after that.

Aye, thats one way to deal with it.
Out of all the sleepless night I had in my life, 90% were over the kids, and 90% of those were over bullying.

When my daughter was about 14, she got 'piled on' in the school playground and had her boobs roughed up by a couple of the lads (anything else, she didnt tell me). Having red hair, she also had the background years of low intensity bullying.
My son was kicked off his bike when he was about 12, by the school bully. He split his eye open on the fence post and was still throwing up in the sink when I got home from work 2 hours later.
Most recently, my grandson, also red haired, has been targeted by some serious thugs in his school. He is 15.
Plus, of course, I got my fair share of it when I was at school.

So, Boudica, I dont take this lightly. It occurs to me that every person on this board who knows someone who is being bullied, also knows someone who is a bully. I also know that many bullies would be horrified to find they were being labelled as such, they just think they are having a laugh.
I think the response should fit the situation, from doing nothing, through to doing an aussielong, through to getting the police involved.
I hate the idea of putting kids in a protective bubble, it might stop them getting a thick ear, but it wont help them in the long run. You need a strategy that stops the bullying, increases the kids self confidence and self reliance, and, the icing on the cake, increases the kids street cred (that will ensure they sail through the rest of their childhood with minimum problems)

[MaryPoppins]

Aye, thats one way to deal with it.
Out of all the sleepless night I had in my life, 90% were over the kids, and 90% of those were over bullying.

When my daughter was about 14, she got 'piled on' in the school playground and had her boobs roughed up by a couple of the lads (anything else, she didnt tell me). Having red hair, she also had the background years of low intensity bullying.
My son was kicked off his bike when he was about 12, by the school bully. He split his eye open on the fence post and was still throwing up in the sink when I got home from work 2 hours later.
Most recently, my grandson, also red haired, has been targeted by some serious thugs in his school. He is 15.
Plus, of course, I got my fair share of it when I was at school.

So, Boudica, I dont take this lightly. It occurs to me that every person on this board who knows someone who is being bullied, also knows someone who is a bully. I also know that many bullies would be horrified to find they were being labelled as such, they just think they are having a laugh.
I think the response should fit the situation, from doing nothing, through to doing an aussielong, through to getting the police involved.
I hate the idea of putting kids in a protective bubble, it might stop them getting a thick ear, but it wont help them in the long run. You need a strategy that stops the bullying, increases the kids self confidence and self reliance, and, the icing on the cake, increases the kids street cred (that will ensure they sail through the rest of their childhood with minimum problems)

Completely agree. Calling the police for an incident like this will probably only make the girls life worse at school.

[shaunbhoy]

Para's are only bright enough to remember one instruction at a time.

And even then, only if it is a relatively simple one.