School Bully

[BrilloPad]

One thing I learnt about bullies when I was a kid is that their parents usually don’t have any decency. They were often bullies themselves.

True. But its worth a try.

[OwlHoot]

I'd go see the kid's Parents and put them on a guilt trip. If they have an decency they will nip it in the bud.

Baggie, you're not keeping up - His son, being blind, doesn't know who the culprit is!

Another, maybe slightly wacky, idea would be for your son to carry a spray can of indelible dye and the next time this scumbag starts anything give him a full dose in the face and/or clothes. That would at least allow him to be identified, and might deter him.

[Mich the Tester]

True. But its worth a try.

I suppose if they don't cooperate you could take half the rugby club along and beat the crap out his dad though.

[Ivor Bigun]

How would you lot handle your kid being bullied at school?

I found out last night that some kid is picking on my son at school. Because he is blind he doesn't know who it is but he thinks it's the same kid. It started with this kid calling him names, knocking into him and holding doors closed when my son was trying to get around school. Yesterday he was punched him in the face which is pretty low by anybodies standards. He told his support assitant who said 'There isn't much I can do about it is there' which I don't think is good enough. He says things happen when he is between lessons and making his way around the school - he leaves the lessons a couple of minutes early to avoid the rush and because it takes longer when you can't see. We've written to the school and I have told my son that I'll be down there asap if anything happens again and the school do not do something.

IMO, the most common bullying technique is exclusion - usually practised by the kid who comes from divorced parents.

However, actual physical harm is unusual. When this is directed at someone blind, then this is serious. If the school doesn't take it so, move him to another and don't angst the child about it.

Anyway, I'd be suprised if its only one kid. If it was, he would have been reported and caught by now. "Goup" bullying is far more prevalent than most people here realise - especially in fee paying schools.
"Oh, its the disabled kid, everyone kicks him, so I can as well"

Even if you stop it today, it will resurface. It sounds like you should start investigating other schools.

[Bagpuss]

Baggie, you're not keeping up - His son, being blind, doesn't know who the culprit is!

Assuming that is found out by the teachers/support worker, it can't be that hard to spot the kid hanging around laughing

[Ivor Bigun]

I'd go see the kid's Parents and put them on a guilt trip. If they have an decency they will nip it in the bud.

You obviously don't have kids in school then
Unless you know the parents will act on it, this is the last thing to do .

Anyway, most bullies seem to come from rich divorced parents.
These kids are usually very good at manipulating others. they've probably seen how to do it from their parents.
When the bullies parent is confronted, the parent will trot out the oily line "Oh he's had a lot of upset", knowing full well that he's an absolute horror.
After, the fuss has died down, this same parent will organise a party for everyone else and exclude the child thats been bullied.

Thats how bullies survive. Its taught from parent to child.
The mantra goes something like this:
Get others to do what you want by making them think they will miss out if they don't "tow the line".

If anyone resists, make sure you show everyone that you can make them suffer.

[ace00]

Tony, please whatever you do, just think of the consequence it may have for your son.

he is the most important person in this situation, and if this isnt handled delicately by the school could cause him more problems, and thats not the aim of getting this sorted.

WHS.

[scooby]

Keep calm. Fight them with their own bureaucracy. Do everything and anything you can to be a drain on their resources until its sorted. That will be less visible to your son also.

Agree. Tony, i assume this is your / our local council area?? if it is, keep an eye on it, and should it continue and you get nowhere let me know. the Mrs is an ex-teacher and knows lots of people at the council (she and her mum have worked nearly all their life for them). i'll sort you out some contacts.

Re the local rag, you know the Observer (assuming Rochdale still) would jump on this stuff and help you get it sorted. I have contacts within Rochdaleonline news service and they would help you get it sorted it too.

The school response is v poor and isnt correct. My lad goes to one of the worse schools in the borough (ex-Mrs i have no choice!) and they are v hard on bullies as soon as its raised.

Good luck and let me know if you need anything.

[Dante]

One word for you Tony:

M.D.K

But then I'm old school.

[scooby]

One word for you Tony:

M.D.K

But then I'm old school.

I preferred MDK2. Thought that was top!