School Bully

[BoredBloke]

Children love their pets to death, and assuming Tony lives in the same house as his son, there'll be adult supervision. Perhaps they should just get the kid a german shepherd and tell him to pretend it's a guide dog. he could tell the other kids it's a crap but very vicious guide dog.

there are 2 reasons

1 - you have to be big enough to control the dog. While they are very well trained they are still just dogs at the end of the day

2 - the dogs training would be ruined in a school with the other kids constantly petting it.

[BrilloPad]

Had my lad saying that he was getting grief on the school bus every morning since staring secondary school from a kid a couple of years older than him (and having to use the bus day and night to get there and back)

Bus driver wasnt interested and school said it was outside their control

Basically went down to bus stop - found the largest eldest lad there and gave him £20 to sort out anyone who gave my lad grief.

Only had to do it the once - the bully stopped as he had the threat of the bigger kid kicking the cr@p of him if it continued or happened again

My lad started TaeKwonDo in the meantime - should be able to stick up a bit more for himself soon......

Great idea! Well done.

[thelace]

Sorry to hear about that Tony,

The short answer about what you can do about it is probably not a lot!

But that should not stop you.

Call the Head. Tell him that you are GOING to see him.

Have a brief meeting with him expressing your concerns, use a dictaphone, take notes. If/when you get no joy from him, elevate it straight to the Head of the LEA.

Unfortunately, you'll still probably get little joy. Then take James out of school for a week and set the Daily Mail on them.

We had a similar situation in the Summer. My eldest (13) was walking back from a school sports camp when 2 of the kids who'd been there with him jumped him. One kicked his feet from underneath him, the other jumped on his back pinning him to the floor. Then the 1st one repeatedly kicked him in the head....

They were only put off when an old guy opened his front door and shouted at them to clear off, which they did leaving Ben unconcious on the floor. The old guy then did a good job of getting Ben home and I shot him straight upto A&E (breaking one or 10 speed limits on the way). A & E did a good job on him, all the way upto CAT scans of his head to check for bleeds.

The police were called and "went to visit" the offending toe rags before letting them off with a caution.

School when contacted excluded the little tulips from the sports camp. They also excluded Ben because they couldn't possibly know who started it and couldn't be bothered to investigate (though there were witnesses).

All in all, as a parent you feel so impotent when you're in the system and it fails you and my heart goes out to both you an James.

In my case, all I can do is wait! I know who the toe rags are. I know who their parents are (couldn't give a tulip about their kids type)! One day, I will meet them down a dark alley and give them the hiding of their lives!

[minestrone]

That's poor show, sorry to hear that.

Get down the heads office and demand that he promises that this does not happen again, ask for his assurances in writing.

If he refuses tell him that the local press know about the issue and have offered to run a story but you have decided to give the school one last chance.

Say if you cannot get assurances then that will be reported in the press.

"Head teacher refuses to back disabled child over bullying claims"

His piles will pop at the prospect of every parent reading that in the paper, put the pressure on him and let him deal with the tulip storm that will follow if you do not get what you want; it is his job after all.

[Money Money Money]

Very hard situation...

Its very easy for everyone to say go down and kick the tulip out of the bully, but lets be honest...you can;t actually do that or he'll end up down the nick!

The police aren't going to do anything - He doesn't even know who it is yet.

The papers aren't going to help, that is just going to make it into a huge situation and draw more attention to his son.

The ideal situation would be to get someone with sight to hang around with him for a week or two. I can understand this may be hard as its a new school and few friends.

How about speaking to one of the parents and explain the situation and maybe ask them to ask their kids who did it. In my opinion I would expect everyone in the year would know if someone punched a blind kid!!!

When you know who is responsible then you can:
1) Get the head to have a word
2) Speak to the kids parents and explain (I would seriously punish my kid)
3) Have a quiet word with the boy, let him know you know and you wont let it happen again.

I'm sure if he knows he is being watched and parents and teachers know its him/them they will think twice about it, its very easy for them as he is blind and cannot see them.

[poser]

Tony, please whatever you do, just think of the consequence it may have for your son.

he is the most important person in this situation, and if this isnt handled delicately by the school could cause him more problems, and thats not the aim of getting this sorted.

[Bagpuss]

I'd go see the kid's Parents and put them on a guilt trip. If they have an decency they will nip it in the bud.

[OwlHoot]

Could your son not be equipped with a very large guide dog?

How about this fellow;
child minder

How about a Staffie ?

[Mich the Tester]

I'd go see the kid's Parents and put them on a guilt trip. If they have an decency they will nip it in the bud.

One thing I learnt about bullies when I was a kid is that their parents usually don’t have any decency. They were often bullies themselves.

[Mich the Tester]

How about a Staffie ?

Yep, I've tried to convince him but he's given reasons for not giving the child a dog. I don't necessarily agree with the reasons, but it's not my choice.