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Being depressed as a contractor... how to gather myself?

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    Being depressed as a contractor... how to gather myself?

    Hello..

    Has anybody crossed this bridge before?

    Thanks
    Last edited by password; 3 December 2018, 14:39.

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      #3
      I think that you need more support than can be found as an independent contractor.

      I would consider going back into permanent employment.
      "I can put any old tat in my sig, put quotes around it and attribute to someone of whom I've heard, to make it sound true."
      - Voltaire/Benjamin Franklin/Anne Frank...

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        #4
        Originally posted by AtW View Post
        45
        Oh...
        "I can put any old tat in my sig, put quotes around it and attribute to someone of whom I've heard, to make it sound true."
        - Voltaire/Benjamin Franklin/Anne Frank...

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          #5
          A bit of exercise wouldn’t hurt and might tide you over for a bit, but I really think you should seek medical advice. Maybe your medication could be changed to something that suits you better, or some other form of therapy might be appropriate. But I doubt anybody on here can offer advice that would be any more than temporarily palliative.

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            #6
            Originally posted by cojak View Post
            Oh...
            Do I get a free “CALL ANYBODY A MORON GET OUT OF BAN” card?

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              #7
              Horrid. Been there over much of last 18 months, some good days but mostly too knackered and low to want to bother. Kept on making the effort but didn't help. Strangely, been pretty normal for quite a few weeks now, no obvious reason for it. Sometimes these things just seem to go away, so don't give up. My son had a similar experience last year.

              Personally I'd avoid these anti-depressants if you can, the side effects can be a lot worse and last much longer than they let on.

              No quick fixes but exercise, getting out and doing things certainly helps, countryside always picked me up a bit. Just don't overdo it, too much obsessing with "getting on with life" regardless can add to the strain. Can sometimes help to just let go a bit, pretend you're an old fart in a care home and sit around watching TV.

              Good luck.
              bloggoth

              If everything isn't black and white, I say, 'Why the hell not?'
              John Wayne (My guru, not to be confused with my beloved prophet Jeremy Clarkson)

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                #8
                Time and time again I'm fascinated with Jordan Peterson's ideas. I'm not depressed but I do acknowledge how easily chaos or lack of structure can affect my mood and desire. I'll go out of my way to make the bed prim and proper every morning now just to make my first achievement of the day, which inversely pleases me at the other end of the day.


                Main ideas:


                1) One of the many causes of depression is lack of order and the chaos that comes from the lack of structure.

                2) If you don't have a job and structure, your circadian rhythms will be messed up, which affect your mood.

                3 )Of all the positive emotion, very little will come from attaining things, they'll come from seeing that things are working as you pursue a goal you value.

                4) No job + No relationships or no friends + Addiction problem or health issues = Almost impossible to help you.

                5) Get a job, even if it's not the one you want.

                6) Ask yourself "What would I have to do to have a successful day that I would do?

                7) Learn to negotiate with yourself:
                - Establish some aims. If you have none, go for the least objectable aim you can find.
                . There's always something that you can do that would be a small step forward.

                8) Small, accruing gains, that repeat, are incredibly powerful.

                9) Focus on fixing things that you CAN fix.

                10) You're very sensitive to the story your environment is telling you.

                11) Life can be meaningful enough to justify its suffering.



                "Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience". Mark Twain

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                  #9
                  Originally posted by scooterscot View Post
                  Time and time again I'm fascinated with Jordan Peterson's ideas. I'm not depressed but I do acknowledge how easily chaos or lack of structure can affect my mood and desire. I'll go out of my way to make the bed prim and proper every morning now just to make my first achievement of the day, which inversely pleases me at the other end of the day.


                  Main ideas:


                  1) One of the many causes of depression is lack of order and the chaos that comes from the lack of structure.

                  2) If you don't have a job and structure, your circadian rhythms will be messed up, which affect your mood.

                  3 )Of all the positive emotion, very little will come from attaining things, they'll come from seeing that things are working as you pursue a goal you value.

                  4) No job + No relationships or no friends + Addiction problem or health issues = Almost impossible to help you.

                  5) Get a job, even if it's not the one you want.

                  6) Ask yourself "What would I have to do to have a successful day that I would do?

                  7) Learn to negotiate with yourself:
                  - Establish some aims. If you have none, go for the least objectable aim you can find.
                  . There's always something that you can do that would be a small step forward.

                  8) Small, accruing gains, that repeat, are incredibly powerful.

                  9) Focus on fixing things that you CAN fix.

                  10) You're very sensitive to the story your environment is telling you.

                  11) Life can be meaningful enough to justify its suffering.



                  Are you trying to push the OP over the edge?

                  OP, talking therapies and CBT are effective for mood disorders. Mindfulness is worth a try as well.

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                    #10
                    Originally posted by Old Greg View Post
                    Are you trying to push the OP over the edge?

                    OP, talking therapies and CBT are effective for mood disorders. Mindfulness is worth a try as well.
                    Obviously cUK general is not the place to be talking about such things. But since it is here... no, I'm not trying to push anyone over the edge.
                    "Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience". Mark Twain

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