State of the Market

[Fraidycat]

The pressure is immeasurable.

Its a lot worse if you don't have an understanding spouse (i don't). A bit easier if you do. Well off parents or in-laws would be a nice backstop. Failing that you need a big war chest and/or access to credit lines.

"Elon Musk was once in such dire financial straits that the parents of his then-girlfriend Talulah Riley, the British actress who was dating Elon Musk at the time in 2008, offered to remortgage their house in order to keep his companies from collapsing. recalled that even though his companies – SpaceX and Tesla – were teetering on the brink of oblivion, Musk turned down her parents' offer.
'He looked like death itself,' Riley said.
'I remember thinking this guy would have a heart attack and die. He seemed like a man on the brink.' She said that Musk was nearly broke when he began suffering from what might be known as 'industrial night terrors.' 'He was in physical pain,' Riley said. 'He would climb up me and start screaming while still asleep.'

[GJABS]

Hoping to have long departed before I get to the end of the mortgage. Although, I may bring it forward if this does not resolve soon.

I can see why people do themselves in. The pressure is immeasurable.

You're saying that because you've got anxiety and depression. I know what it's like
I would suggest seeing your GP for some medication in the short term at least, even benzodiazepines, to get you over the worst of this.

[SchumiStars]

You're saying that because you've got anxiety and depression. I know what it's like
I would suggest seeing your GP for some medication in the short term at least, even benzodiazepines, to get you over the worst of this.

No I don't have any of these. I am too strong for anything like needing pills. I just need a job.

Going to put the car up for sale. I do love that car and it's been in the family for 25yrs but no point holding onto something that could help.

[Fraidycat]

The pressure is mostly in the head, i risk a nervous breakdown when i have financial problems. But my dad was the opposite, while I was growing up he would be in perpetual mortgage arrears and not pay council tax/rates and the bailiffs would come knocking often. And he would not even be stressed about it all. He would re mortgage every few years to pull out equity and pay off this debts. House prices were going up so much in the 70s and 80s, he could do that


In SchumiStars situation he would have gone to his mortgage broker and seen how much equity he could pull out of the house.

[WTFH]

I’ve been contacted by three separate agencies recently to work for Mrs Sunak’s tax-free organisation. The role is replacing someone on a client site, who didn’t work through them and who the client don’t want to replace, but the ClientCo were not aware that the no-existent role was being advertised. I let their head of IT know over a couple of bottles of wine yesterday evening (since he signs my timesheets) and he was not impressed.

[hobnob]

I am too strong for anything like needing pills.

If you don't need medication then I agree with you that you shouldn't be taking it. However, if someone does need medication, that isn't a sign of weakness.

(Again, I'm not trying to talk you into anything, I'm just concerned about anyone else who might be reading this who has clinical depression.)

[GJABS]

No I don't have any of these. I am too strong for anything like needing pills. I just need a job.

I'm sure you are strong, but everyone has limits to what they can handle.

[SussexSeagull]

No I don't have any of these. I am too strong for anything like needing pills. I just need a job.

Going to put the car up for sale. I do love that car and it's been in the family for 25yrs but no point holding onto something that could help.

Being down is an entirely understandable reaction to your current plight. I know, I have been there. However if it ever looks like turning to depression, go and see your GP and take whatever treatment he recommends.

It's not about being strong.

[PCTNN]

If you don't need medication then I agree with you that you shouldn't be taking it. However, if someone does need medication, that isn't a sign of weakness.

(Again, I'm not trying to talk you into anything, I'm just concerned about anyone else who might be reading this who has clinical depression.)

Aye, I've found this to be such a toxic behaviour, especially common in boomers.

"Therapy? Pills? Absolutely not! We're not weak...we just need to get on with it!"

[SchumiStars]

Aye, I've found this to be such a toxic behaviour, especially common in boomers.

"Therapy? Pills? Absolutely not! We're not weak...we just need to get on with it!"

I'm not a boomer. I was born in 1977!

In my spare time, I am active in a number of sports including boxing and cycling, which looks after my mental health.

I am always grateful for what I have, as we all know it could be a lot worse. This also helps mental health.

I am not saying I'm without issues. I have Asperger's and ADHD, and that I don't end up in negative mental cycles.

If I have a positive mindset then positivity will follow.

I am a highly experienced software developer who can code in Java, C#, EpiServer, SQL. I am a higher Oxford grad who lives and works in London. I am the man. At some point, the world will know my name, until that, I will continue to grind.

...hope dies last.