Reply to: What is the purpose of marriage?

[d000hg]

I guess you could have sex on a tap, especially if you were a lady and it was one with a long spout, but I don't imagine it would be that comfortable and as a man, I'll pass.

[quackhandle]

Purpose? To have sex on ta- no hang on, that can't be it.



qh

[d000hg]

I don't think that's what Clare said.

I didn't say it was, but others have suggested that.

If you've been together say 10 years, live together and have kids, deciding "maybe should get married" seems singularly pointless and nothing to celebrate. It's administration, not union.

[MaryPoppins]

Indeed but why have the party at all? If you're only doing it for tax breaks, nip into the registry office one Tuesday, sign the forms and forget about it.

I don't think that's what Clare said.

[RedSauce]

Because you can't get divorced unless you are married.

[d000hg]

you can walk down to the registry office & do it. Party in the pub afterwards < £1k.

Indeed but why have the party at all? If you're only doing it for tax breaks, nip into the registry office one Tuesday, sign the forms and forget about it.

[Mich the Tester]

If you don't believe in marriage as special for whatever reasons, then don't do it. Why bother? Why feel obligated to spend a fortune on a daft party if you don't think getting married actually changes anything. Many see it as just a token - it's a blood expensive token!

Because our governments still see it as special.

[vetran]

If you don't believe in marriage as special for whatever reasons, then don't do it. Why bother? Why feel obligated to spend a fortune on a daft party if you don't think getting married actually changes anything. Many see it as just a token - it's a blood expensive token!

you can walk down to the registry office & do it. Party in the pub afterwards < £1k.

[d000hg]

That's what I'd do. I like the idea of a drive through wedding in Vegas, or getting married by Elvis. No fuss, just a slight detour then carry on with the holiday. If anyone wants to help celebrate we can have a party when we get home.

If you don't believe in marriage as special for whatever reasons, then don't do it. Why bother? Why feel obligated to spend a fortune on a daft party if you don't think getting married actually changes anything. Many see it as just a token - it's a blood expensive token!

[vwdan]

That's what I'd do. I like the idea of a drive through wedding in Vegas, or getting married by Elvis. No fuss, just a slight detour then carry on with the holiday. If anyone wants to help celebrate we can have a party when we get home.

I always thought like this, but I was Best Man at a Vegas wedding and while it was great fun (And Vegas is ace), somehow it just didn't do it for me and it put me off the idea of a destination wedding. We enjoyed doing a country house wedding and I loved it - enjoyed it far more than I ever imagined enjoying a wedding day.

[tarbera]

simple

Is it to find out what sort of man your wife would have preferred?

how do you stop the love of your life giving you a B-Job

Marry her !!!!

[d000hg]

Is it to find out what sort of man your wife would have preferred?

I think BP's is still the best. Nicely done.

My, what a bitter lot you are

Question to BP: I'm confused. I know you were married long ago (the whole Batman thing ) but thought that ended long ago. But over recent weeks you've talked about "the wife" and about not having a wife... so are you married or not?

[scooterscot]

The purpose?

It's great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.

[lukemg]

'Those who the gods seek to destroy, they first make mad'

Really struggling to see the appeal after seeing numerous people royally rogered after break-ups.
But, if you like living in a bed-sit while some wayne rogers your missus and brings up your kids while sitting in your house watching your telly, fill ya boots...

[vetran]

WSS +1

My accountant (who also happens to be a woman) is always bringing this up and how much I would save in tax. Admittedly over the past 25 years we've been together I think it would have been quite a lot, its just I'm a lazy bugger and just can't get around to doing all the paperwork (actually I did get around to getting a copy of my birth certificate, just in case)

In the UK its not just tax savings a Partner has a lot fewer rights.

Citizens Advice - Living together and marriage: legal differences

I believe if you end up as a vegetable your wife has a far easier time legally than a partner.