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Originally posted by speling bee View PostYou shouldn't let elderly gents push your bike up the hill.
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Originally posted by mudskipper View PostBitch from Hell?
BFH to me is the large hill at Ipsden between Wallingford and Reading. Attempted it on Saturday with a pannier full of text books and failed. Embarrassingly, an older gentleman jogged past me pushing my bike.
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Originally posted by Mich the Tester View Post
Big Fat Harlot?
BFH to me is the large hill at Ipsden between Wallingford and Reading. Attempted it on Saturday with a pannier full of text books and failed. Embarrassingly, an older gentleman jogged past me pushing my bike.
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Originally posted by BrilloPad View Post+1. I often find that love and hate are very close together. These days I am totally ambivalent toward my ex - my days of calling her the BFH are over.
Big Fat Harlot?
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Originally posted by alreadypacked View PostWhen you are angry with someone, you see things differently, money is just another weapon.
That's why I say, you need to sort out your anger first, money is not the problem.
Except to wind up the twins that is! Occasionally I hurl a volley of insults about her while the twins are listening. They get upset. I laugh at them. Suckers!
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Originally posted by vetran View PostAh that makes more sense, seems fair when explained.
Nice move, I can see why you might be a little angry with him.
As you say lucky escape.
That's why I say, you need to sort out your anger first, money is not the problem.
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Originally posted by BlasterBates View PostYou see this is what happens when you give women the vote.
The 1989 Children Act corrected this - but was ignored by the family courts.
Things are getting better now - mostly due to younger judges with a higher percentage of women. Its the older judges, composed mostly of men, who are the issue.
The younger ones understand that women don't just look after kids - they work too.
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Originally posted by alreadypacked View PostThe contract we signed, when the house was sold I would get the 20% of value as I invested 20%. The bank was paid, then the balance was split 50 - 50.
As it turned out this meant he got all the money he paid in back, but no profit. He saw all the money I got as profit.
What he didn't see was, if I had not put the money down and got the loan, we would be renting and he would have got none of his money back.
But he was very sweet about ending things, I went to stay with a friend for a few days (we were fighting too much) he changed the locks. Then he moved his new gf and her 2 kids in, class.
Lucky I didn't marry him.
Nice move, I can see why you might be a little angry with him.
As you say lucky escape.
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[QUOTE=Scoi;1632715]Originally posted by IR35FanClub View Post/QUOTE]
But, apparently, in a minority of cases, things can be argued in court which is what i'm trying to avoid. We have to give full and frank disclosure of finances and i'm concerned that seeing a nice war chest will spur her on for a long drawn out and expensive fight only for both of us to walk out with a big legal bill which will probably be the size of said war chest.
My advice would be to try and find out what she wants (in £££) to walk away, give her it and get on with your life.
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Originally posted by IR35FanClub View Post
But, apparently, in a minority of cases, things can be argued in court which is what i'm trying to avoid. We have to give full and frank disclosure of finances and i'm concerned that seeing a nice war chest will spur her on for a long drawn out and expensive fight only for both of us to walk out with a big legal bill which will probably be the size of said war chest.
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Originally posted by vetran View Postcan't imagine why.
As it turned out this meant he got all the money he paid in back, but no profit. He saw all the money I got as profit.
What he didn't see was, if I had not put the money down and got the loan, we would be renting and he would have got none of his money back.
But he was very sweet about ending things, I went to stay with a friend for a few days (we were fighting too much) he changed the locks. Then he moved his new gf and her 2 kids in, class.
Lucky I didn't marry him.Last edited by alreadypacked; 23 October 2012, 08:01.
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he paid the mortage I paid all the other bills. When we split he wanted to keep all the profit from the house as he paid the mortage.
He got his money back, but I got the rest of the money after the sale, he was not happy.
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Originally posted by Platypus View PostTake it out of the company, hide it under several mattresses and say that you spent on fine wines and expensive restaurants.
She can't take what isn't there.
As regards to the original question - yes the company funds can be classed as part of the assets under consideration. They were in my case - though in the end they were mutually agreed to be ignored - as my wife had a great big public sector pension pot I could have asked to take half of. Via the solicitor I got her to see sense that we should treat these two assets as "personal" and stop any more bad feelings of robbery building up. What you are entitled to isn't always the best option. You solicitor doesn't seem to be giving you good advice here. Are they at least telling you the possible outcomes?
What I'm still really pissed off at is she didn't give me back a musical keyboard I'd had since I was 17! Silly really - but I saved up £200 to buy it back then which was a lot of money.
I'll pass on the advice a colleague gave to me but ignored... go round with a van and take what you want not long after leaving or you will never get it back. You may think things are amicable but once the lawyers get involved it becomes a counting game and possession is 100% of what matters. The fact stuff has a value is more or less irrelevant - if the wife has it - she gets to decide whether to keep it. The alternative is to pay the solicitor to fight for each item - which isn't worth the cost.
My personal advice - is try and settle out of court, my two most expensive months ever - by the time barristers start getting dragged in too - you'll be adding several thousand to the bill.
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