Reply to: Am I being tight

[Bagpuss]

I'm don't really understand this talk of paying girlfriends for sexual services. What happened to people loving each other?

[jmo21]

Can you tell us what you already have, and what she is asking for?

I don't mind around Xmas/birthday when the missus hints at a certain perfume, DVD/CD, etc as it makes it easier - but an extra £300?

[TheFaQQer]

I've always been careful with my money stems from the fact I didnt have much when I was young and now I have a bit of income I don't want to blow it. Its my current gf's birthday next week and already its cost me the best of £400 she has also mentioned something else now she would like to do but its pushing it up to around £700 all in. Usually I could afford it but have spent sh*t loads last 4 months renovating house and still have a load to spend so £700 seems alot at the moment. Do you think I'm being tight if I say no its too much even though I could afford it really ?

No - you're being stupid for spending so much money on her in the first place.

Doing something special doesn't need to cost money - any idiot can spend money, it takes more thought to do something special though.

[SizeZero]

Is there any chance she's mentioned this second gift thinking that either

a) the £400 present she mentioned first might have been too expensive and she was giving you a cheaper alternative? or

b) you may not have heard time she mentioned gift A, because Mr Jumbo was firmly in the driving seat at the time, and she's just dreading the black and red lingerie that every other bloke probably bought her before?

[MaryPoppins]

No not looking for approval of what I'm doing probably just someone to tell me to come to my senses which is the general feeling I'm getting from the thread. I would rather ask the question anonousmly then ask people I know. I always seem to go for the wrong type of girl if I'm honest.

As everyone else is saying, if she is aware you have spent 400 quid and is asking for MORE, she has some dubious morals - doesn't matter if you're a millionaire, money still has value. How cringeworthy. I haaate talking about money with boyfs or potential boyfs, can't imagine asking for more for a birthday. How rude!

Don't get her what she's asked for and if she truly kicks up a stink you know for sure what she's really after.

[realityhack]

So you're not really a bike courier then, RH????

It's classified. I can't talk about it. Sorry.

[cojak]

Ok. Next time you meet a potential girlfriend, and she asks what you do, tell her you work as the fluffer on the Graham Norton show. If she stays with you, it's true love. Either that or she wants to 'turn' him. In either case, it'll be interesting.

So you're not really a bike courier then, RH????

[northernladuk]

That would be the 23 really crap years, would it?

ROFLLLL!!! Pure gold!! LMFAO

[Tingles]

Tell her you are giving up contracting to work with handicapped which pays £5p/h. Watch for the reaction.

Good strategy.

[NotAllThere]

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We've been married 7 glorious years, and she has stuck with me through some very bad times.

That would be the 23 really crap years, would it?

[realityhack]

Just say you work for the 'government', the pay's not all it's cracked up to be, and leave it at that. Any questions around earnings or job specifics should be deflected/avoided politely and tactfully. Avoid anecdotes about tornado flights & spagetti.

[Diestl]

Tell her you are giving up contracting to work with handicapped which pays £5p/h. Watch for the reaction.

[BrilloPad]

Seriously, you could just describe your job to GFs in a way that seems financially 'stable' enough, yet not overly attractive to gold-diggers. And not flash the cash about. And massively underestimate your net earnings if you have to tell her.

Binman would fit the bill.....

[realityhack]

Seriously, you could just describe your job to GFs in a way that seems financially 'stable' enough, yet not overly attractive to gold-diggers. And not flash the cash about. And massively underestimate your net earnings if you have to tell her.

[realityhack]

I always seem to go for the wrong type of girl if I'm honest.

Ok. Next time you meet a potential girlfriend, and she asks what you do, tell her you work as the fluffer on the Graham Norton show. If she stays with you, it's true love. Either that or she wants to 'turn' him. In either case, it'll be interesting.