Reply to: Off Field question - if someone dies

[NickFitz]

I posted on here because I thought it might be a month or so before the inevitable. I didnt realise it was going to take 24 hours!

I know what you mean. Some years ago, an uncle of mine who had been a good friend to me during a troubled time was diagnosed with liver cancer. Although he lived close by, he had many visitors, and his wife asked me to wait a few days before coming round to see him on the basis that he was tiring rapidly and I could easily pop round when the rush had subsided.

Three days after the diagnosis had been made, my parents (he was my father's elder brother) were travelling up to see him (about 90 minutes journey). Before setting off they phoned his wife to make sure he was well enough to see them. They were reassured to learn that, though weak, he was indeed well enough for them to visit.

By the time they arrived, he had died.

I'm still sad that I wasn't able to see him, but I feel much more for my father, who had so many more reasons to want to say goodbye - this was his elder brother, who'd cheered him up in air raid shelters during the Blitz on Liverpool's docks, near which they lived.

Since then I've lost a couple of friends to cancer that overwhelms them in the space of weeks, and it's truly terrible when somebody dies within such a short time after the first signs of illness.

You and your friend's family have my heartfelt commiserations.

[Board Game Geek]

MF & Craig,

In this time of sorrow, may you and those around you find strength and solace within yourselves and each other.

[gingerjedi]

My best mate died 1 year ago, his 3 year old boy didn't understand as he thought he was at a wedding rather than his father’s funeral.

The little girl at 2 won't understand either but they do naturally bond with the mother more so it will be tough for her and the father, having a 1 year old myself I find this heartbreaking.

My sincere condolences to both MF and Craig.

[MarillionFan]

Oh MF that's so horrible

But did you really post on here to ask us what to do before you rang the doctor?

I posted on here because I thought it might be a month or so before the inevitable. I didnt realise it was going to take 24 hours!

[NotAllThere]

[Diestl]

Poor things, my condolences

[ThomasSoerensen]

Our daughter (nearly 4) passed away 12weeks ago very unexpectedly (in her sleep). We called 999 as a reflex action. The coronial inquest was last Monday – natural causes, terminal seizure (she had quadriplegic cerebral palsy).

my condolences

[ThomasSoerensen]

Well she died last night after being taken into hospital, less than 24 hours after I was unable to help her get up the night before.

Survived by a husband and a 2 1/2 year old daughter. The father is just about to collect from nursery and tell her that her mummy has died.

Shocking. Nothing really prepares for that

my condolences

[administrator]

craig_m67 & MF. Sorry to hear of your losses. The petty troubles of the day pail into insignificance when you are reminded of sad losses such as these. Always sadder to hear of the death of a child or a young child losing a parent. Heartfelt condolences to you all.

[cailin maith]

I'm confused why MF was doing what the husband should have been doing. Is this one of those "I have a mate" situations?

I think he was just being there. His mate was probably strssed to feck looking after his wife and kid, MF helping out was probably a godsend for them.

[Bagpuss]

I'm confused why MF was doing what the husband should have been doing. Is this one of those "I have a mate" situations?

[SallyAnne]

Quicky question, if someone dies in your house overnight (they've come home as they are dying of serious illness) who do you call when they eventually pass away??

Doctor, Police, Ambulance? I'm helping out and waiting the call, but who do I need to speak to first when it happens?

Oh MF that's so horrible

But did you really post on here to ask us what to do before you rang the doctor?

[DiscoStu]

It's posts like this that really put our petty CUK bickering about things into perspective.

Best wishes go out to both of you MF and Craig.

[d000hg]

Well she died last night after being taken into hospital, less than 24 hours after I was unable to help her get up the night before.

Survived by a husband and a 2 1/2 year old daughter. The father is just about to collect from nursery and tell her that her mummy has died.

Shocking. Nothing really prepares for that

Man that sucks. Hopefully having a daughter will help him through it... it can go either way in such cases I understand. I don't know enough about kids to have any idea how much a 2 1/2 year-old will remember and be affected?

[PRC1964]

Blimey,

MF & Craig my best wishes go out to both of you.