Reply to: Wedding costs

[realityhack]

Fiery temper my arse

Speaking of funny bottom things....I went for a Thai on Saturday...

This cannot be a coincidence, were the fire brigade called to the scene?

[SallyAnne]

Ah vindaloo last night, then ....

Speaking of funny bottom things....I went for a Thai on Saturday - those pumps are a bit special aren't they?

[sasguru]

Fiery ... my arse

Ah vindaloo last night, then ....

[SallyAnne]

Sorry SA, it wasn't meant to be that offensive/patronising to women and it's not a reflection on the future's Mrs PL's opinion, maybe I should find a tongue in cheek smilie. The question stems from the bridal mags she's (we're) going through and some of the 'typical examples' featured. The wedding itself is abroad (which I think I mentioned elsewhere) and so is pretty much a fixed cost, it's the reception costs that I'm trying to manage.

As you can see from the varied responses, people have differing opinions on what is reasonable, acceptable or necessary and it was this that I was trying to poll.

It's not about what I will be spending since we are a couple and this will affect us both (lifestyle for the coming months or years).

If I didn't have respect for the woman it would be a pretty redundant poll, no?

Good. Just checking!! And Well done

Fiery temper my arse

[tay]

I think its a myth that red heads have fiery tempers.

[Pondlife]

Jesus - everything about this post/thread angers me.

Pondlife - I normally really like you, and I'm not going to stop now. But that
"her 'happiest day' ?" tulip is disgusting. If you really want to marry her, then show her some ******* respect. What a horrible thing to say.

And your attitude towards the money side of things is just as digusting. If you're that pissed off about having to pay for it all yourself, find a lass who can pay half.

It's not so much what you're asking that's getting to me - it's the way you're askign it. You really sound like a prize *****, and not much of a catch for this lass at all - even with all your loads of contractor cash (which to any half decent lass means **** all anway).

Sorry SA, it wasn't meant to be that offensive/patronising to women and it's not a reflection on the future's Mrs PL's opinion, maybe I should find a tongue in cheek smilie. The question stems from the bridal mags she's (we're) going through and some of the 'typical examples' featured. The wedding itself is abroad (which I think I mentioned elsewhere) and so is pretty much a fixed cost, it's the reception costs that I'm trying to manage.

As you can see from the varied responses, people have differing opinions on what is reasonable, acceptable or necessary and it was this that I was trying to poll.

It's not about what I will be spending since we are a couple and this will affect us both (lifestyle for the coming months or years).

If I didn't have respect for the woman it would be a pretty redundant poll, no?

[TheFaQQer]

I have to say I had similar sentiments to Pondlife on this. From my perspective the day itself is definitely geared towards the bride and I did what was necessary to make it as perfect as possible for her. Lets face it the bride is the centre of attention on the wedding day.

The only purpose of the groom on a wedding day is to make the photos look balanced.

[oracleslave]

But that "her 'happiest day' ?" tulip is disgusting.

I have to say I had similar sentiments to Pondlife on this. From my perspective the day itself is definitely geared towards the bride and I did what was necessary to make it as perfect as possible for her. Lets face it the bride is the centre of attention on the wedding day.

[SallyAnne]

Poll to follow (wait for it....)

So, how much inc the honeymoon should I be forking out for her 'happiest day' ?

Some of the bridal magazines she's got are just ridiculous, I mean +£35K FFS

Brillo, yes yes, your opinion is duly noted and will be taken into consideration.

Jesus - everything about this post/thread angers me.

Pondlife - I normally really like you, and I'm not going to stop now. But that
"her 'happiest day' ?" tulip is disgusting. If you really want to marry her, then show her some ******* respect. What a horrible thing to say.

And your attitude towards the money side of things is just as digusting. If you're that pissed off about having to pay for it all yourself, find a lass who can pay half.

It's not so much what you're asking that's getting to me - it's the way you're askign it. You really sound like a prize *****, and not much of a catch for this lass at all - even with all your loads of contractor cash (which to any half decent lass means **** all anway).

[Pondlife]

A 'Dress Down Friday' theme civil wedding ceremony followed by a rollickin' knees up down at Maggies Cafe with a grubfest of Egg, Beans, Spam and Chips and Mr Squirty brown sauce washed down with bottomless pots of tea shouldn't cost too much!

I could see if Chas n' Dave are still about for the band. They could probably use the work.

[NotAllThere]

Happened to my sister-in-law. They kept trying to please everyone else, instead of themselves.

[Lockhouse]

I've seen a number of putative marriages break down under the strain of organising the wedding

Many years ago I split up with someone the day the invites were due to go out. Lost 3K in deposits but a small price to pay compared to splitting up after getting married.

[oracleslave]

One thing I would say - you can't have too many flowers.

Waste of money that could go to booze and food imo.

[NotAllThere]

A 'Dress Down Friday' theme civil wedding ceremony followed by a rollickin' knees up down at Maggies Cafe with a grubfest of Egg, Beans, Spam and Chips and Mr Squirty brown sauce washed down with bottomless pots of tea shouldn't cost too much!

With a few crates of Dom Perignon, that would have got mine and the missus's vote...

I've seen a number of putative marriages break down under the strain of organising the wedding. Probably a good thing, I suppose. We just said to the parents - organise what you will, all we care about is signing the register.

One thing I would say - you can't have too many flowers. And if you can, get them from the farms - you'll save a fortune.

[Denny]

A 'Dress Down Friday' theme civil wedding ceremony followed by a rollickin' knees up down at Maggies Cafe with a grubfest of Egg, Beans, Spam and Chips and Mr Squirty brown sauce washed down with bottomless pots of tea shouldn't cost too much!