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Thanks all, found a solicitor which is based between my home and my contract location at the moment, he is also willing to meet me early in the morning i.e. just before 8 am so that I don't have to take time off work.
As for the kids, I know that my other half would want the kids to stay with me, its not a problem they are well into their teens and would be off to Uni in 2-3 years - I know she wont fight me for custody because the kids will also prefer to live with me.
Re the financing my thoughts are: should propose buying out my share of the house and the company (with the existing mortgage taken into consideration)
For example: house worth £500 K
Mortgage worth £100 K
Will try my best to get a mortgage increase and offer £200 K then some of what I have int he company( or whatever the solicitor recommends) hopefully this would be a final payment - no more for extra alimony.
Hope am not being over-optimistic here.Leave a comment:
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Disclaimer: If this advice is taken I want to make it very clear to all press that I wholeheartedly disagree with this advice and think DBA in no way reflects the views of myself, other contractors, humans, lizards or daleks (where are they? they've been very quiet recently, makes me a bit nervous) .. yes I have played Manhunter, yes i like tarrantino films and yes i thought Bowling for Colombine was an interesting doc..Originally posted by DBA_bloke View PostLeave a comment:
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Plenty of sage advice here, or is there? Speaking as someone who has been through this in the last couple of years here is my tuppence worth:
You have to show your accounts
All the company money is considered your personal asset and added to your 'wealth'
50/50 will not happen, particularly with children
District judges are, in the main, clueless and also lean in favour of the wife
I could be more detailed and, if you want more info, feel free to PM me
My advice, pay her off and move on. This advice is from someone who ran down the bank balance of my Ltd and still had to pay thousands.
Thankfully I'm a lot more relaxed about it now...
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Well, if I had £800 million, although I would want the beeatch to sweat for it, I would still expect to sustain a reasonable lifestyle if I had to bung her 50 mill.Originally posted by DBA_bloke View Post
Alas, for large numbers of married men who get divorced we are talking a major kicking in standard of living, possibly bedsits, large debt etc. Yes, there is usually a good reason why the mum gets the kids + the house and it ain't no picnic for her either most times.
Perversely, contractors/self-employed have got some ability to manipulate their financial 'picture' to try to resist getting totally turned over but at the end of the day, you want the kids to live somewhere nice and if that means you take a step down then think you have to do it.
Have to feel sorry for any bloke edged out of his own house, which he is still paying for, because missus got bored and scored elsewhere. 3 months on, his kids are calling another chap dad, who has his feet up watching his plasma, drinking ale cooled by first blokes fridge !Leave a comment:
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It gives legal recognition to the partnership, which as well as obligations, gives rights and protection. Property rights, exemptions on inheritance tax, benefits regarding social security and pension. Parental rights over the other partners children, (responsibility to maintain and provide for those children, and partner), tenancy rights, life insurance recognition, next-of-kin rights at hospitals (if you are married you are a relative. If you're not married, you are not a relative) etc. etc.
If you are going to live with someone, it would be foolish in the extreme to not consider the legal implications of not being married.Leave a comment:
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