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[NotAllThere]

Bob Marley died from cancer that started under the nail of his toe.


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Skin cancer surely rather than big toe cancer.

[ladymuck]

Well it wasn't good news as it was indeed something to worry about, but they decided that rather too late!

Oh! Sorry! I completely mis-read.

[mudskipper]

That's good news. Get it early and outcomes are far better.

Well it wasn't good news as it was indeed something to worry about, but they decided that rather too late!

[ladymuck]

Sorry to hear about your mum and dad.

As your family are pragmatic, I would strongly suggest getting legal advice and sort out a power of attorney (POA) or lasting power of attorney for you mum now. If your mum develops advanced dementia and you do not have POA, there is always a chance that Social Services poke there nose in and they could take over her care and her assets and even and appoint themselves deputy via the court of protection. This very thing happened to a relative, he lost all control of what happened to his mum both care-wise and financial-wise because he had no POA. Social Services chose the care and administered her estate while living. as well as care costs (£1k per week) there were administration costs for the deputy/solicitor of £110k. In the end he lost everything he would have had under the Will. Local Councils are vultures and have their fingers in the pie of care-homes such as PUPA.

Hopefully your mum is still compos mentis and it the POA can be sorted out for a few hundred pounds. Having said that, everyone should have a POA because if anything nasty happens eg one gets run over by a bus and put on life support, there is no legal framework to deal one's assets as opposed to a Will when one dies.

There is a good read here:

https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/fa...e%20a%20doctor.

Forms etc here: (but I would still suggest doing it via a competent solicitor in that field)

https://www.gov.uk/power-of-attorney

LPA as it's now called has been applied for. I have access to all their bank accounts and have spent the last few weeks consolidating everything to make it more streamlined.

[xoggoth]

Useful advice for us old farts there. Cheers Paddy.

[Paddy]

Thanks. Mum's being assessed for dementia but has to wait 20 weeks to be seen for that.

We're all pretty pragmatic in our family, which can seem harsh to people outside. Hopefully he just goes to sleep one day and doesn't wake up.

Sorry to hear about your mum and dad.

As your family are pragmatic, I would strongly suggest getting legal advice and sort out a power of attorney (POA) or lasting power of attorney for you mum now. If your mum develops advanced dementia and you do not have POA, there is always a chance that Social Services poke there nose in and they could take over her care and her assets and even and appoint themselves deputy via the court of protection. This very thing happened to a relative, he lost all control of what happened to his mum both care-wise and financial-wise because he had no POA. Social Services chose the care and administered her estate while living. as well as care costs (£1k per week) there were administration costs for the deputy/solicitor of £110k. In the end he lost everything he would have had under the Will. Local Councils are vultures and have their fingers in the pie of care-homes such as PUPA.

Hopefully your mum is still compos mentis and it the POA can be sorted out for a few hundred pounds. Having said that, everyone should have a POA because if anything nasty happens eg one gets run over by a bus and put on life support, there is no legal framework to deal one's assets as opposed to a Will when one dies.

There is a good read here:

https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/fa...e%20a%20doctor.

Forms etc here: (but I would still suggest doing it via a competent solicitor in that field)

https://www.gov.uk/power-of-attorney

[ladymuck]

Sorry to hear that Same got Mr ms's brother (only 52) - he hadn't ignored his lump tho - had it removed and was told nothing to worry about.

That's good news. Get it early and outcomes are far better.

[ladymuck]

Bob Marley died from cancer that started under the nail of his toe.


https://www.smoothradio.com/artists/...ed-conspiracy/

The CIA !! Or poor personal hygiene

[mudskipper]

Please get that checked. My Dad has stage 4 melanoma diagnosed a mere 8 weeks ago because he ignored a lump and now he's going to be dead before Christmas from a secondary cancer on the brain that's turned him blind and screwed up his mobility. He also has a tumour on his lungs but it's the one in his head that will do for him as at some point it's going to trigger a massive bleed, we just don't know when exactly.

Sorry to hear that Same got Mr ms's brother (only 52) - he hadn't ignored his lump tho - had it removed and was told nothing to worry about.

[SueEllen]

Had a quick think about this, and I can only come up with skin*, throat, mouth and thyroid. No one gets cancer of the big toe.

Bob Marley died from cancer that started under the nail of his toe.


https://www.smoothradio.com/artists/...ed-conspiracy/

[ladymuck]

Oh I am so sorry to hear that, its difficult to say anything positive with such news. Do say all you want to him and support your mum as she will be lost for a bit after he departs.

Thanks. Mum's being assessed for dementia but has to wait 20 weeks to be seen for that.

We're all pretty pragmatic in our family, which can seem harsh to people outside. Hopefully he just goes to sleep one day and doesn't wake up.

[vetran]

Please get that checked. My Dad has stage 4 melanoma diagnosed a mere 8 weeks ago because he ignored a lump and now he's going to be dead before Christmas from a secondary cancer on the brain that's turned him blind and screwed up his mobility. He also has a tumour on his lungs but it's the one in his head that will do for him as at some point it's going to trigger a massive bleed, we just don't know when exactly.

Oh I am so sorry to hear that, its difficult to say anything positive with such news. Do say all you want to him and support your mum as she will be lost for a bit after he departs.

[ladymuck]

Had a quick think about this, and I can only come up with skin*, throat, mouth and thyroid. No one gets cancer of the big toe.


*Which reminds me, I must make an appointment about this new blemish that's turned up. Flat, circular, non-itchy, red and 1cm in diameter.

Please get that checked. My Dad has stage 4 melanoma diagnosed a mere 8 weeks ago because he ignored a lump and now he's going to be dead before Christmas from a secondary cancer on the brain that's turned him blind and screwed up his mobility. He also has a tumour on his lungs but it's the one in his head that will do for him as at some point it's going to trigger a massive bleed, we just don't know when exactly.

[xoggoth]

Please don't start that BS

Don't know about prostate cancer but enlarged prostate is mostly an age thing.

[SueEllen]

You seem a bit young for that problem Whorty.

Please don't start that BS.

Lots of people end up dying because doctors, let alone members of the public, decide they are too young for a particular illness. Until we genetically test everyone to help predict illness no-one showing signs and symptoms is too young.