Reply to: You are the Judge

[Whorty]

He's just jealous that you are well known for wearing lycra....

The laydeeez love it

[SueEllen]

You see, your problem there is pretty much everyone on here knows what I look like now (and have probably found me on LinkedIn and Facebook too if they can be bothered) so that's where your little comment fails You must be used to failure though eh?

He's just jealous that you are well known for wearing lycra....

[Whorty]

dunno, didn't you?

You see, your problem there is pretty much everyone on here knows what I look like now (and have probably found me on LinkedIn and Facebook too if they can be bothered) so that's where your little comment fails You must be used to failure though eh?

[BR14]

Aaaw, did somebody not get his fat belly tickled today?

dunno, didn't you?

[Whorty]

yep, and then it was transformed into a sanctimonious virtue signalling snowflake thread.
like all the others you contribute to.

hth

Aaaw, did somebody not get his fat belly tickled today?

[vetran]

here you go:

I know you ain't fussy I'm not sticking my old chap in that!

[BR14]

It was started by your mate Spuddy

yep, and then it was transformed into a sanctimonious virtue signalling snowflake thread.
like all the others you contribute to.

hth

[Whorty]

don't worry, it's just another sanctimonious virtue signalling snowflake thread.
There're a lot of them recently.
getting like mumsnet on here.

It was started by your mate Spuddy

[BR14]

Without the beakers!

here you go:

[ladymuck]

Without the beakers!

Tommy Tippee cups!

[vetran]

don't worry, it's just another sanctimonious virtue signalling snowflake thread.
There're a lot of them recently.
getting like mumsnet on here.

Without the beakers!

[BR14]

Can't see what sex has to do with it. If a bloke is right behind me I tend to hold the door open for him too. Just basic politeness.

don't worry, it's just another sanctimonious virtue signalling snowflake thread.
There're a lot of them recently.
getting like mumsnet on here.

[xoggoth]

Can't see what sex has to do with it. If a bloke is right behind me I tend to hold the door open for him too. Just basic politeness.

[Whorty]

You sure they hadn't seen you cycling around?

I suspect lots of people have s lycra fetish like many men have a boot fetish.

That's certainly possible, one had seen me cycling to work Still doesn't make it a pleasant thought

[hobnob]

I've worked with gay men who've complimented me on my dress sense (I wore bespoke suits to the office), why would I be offended? They mean well.

Had plenty come on quite stong when I was younger too, "sorry mate, I'm straight" works just fine. The alternative is some totalitarian office policies - you do know most people meet their life partners at work?

For the first part, absolutely. I've had people compliment me before, e.g. when I worked somewhere without a dress code but made a conscious choice to shift from jeans/T-shirt to "smart casual". I was flattered, and I had no problem with that. Likewise, I think it would be perfectly acceptable for me to compliment a female colleague. That particularly applies if people wear uniforms at work (e.g. a hospital) and then you meet them at a works do when they're wearing their own clothes.

On the other hand, if someone took my hand and said "I really like your shirt - it brings out the colour of your eyes", I think that's crossing a line. So, I wouldn't behave like that towards a female colleague.

As for where people meet their life partners, I found an interesting bit of research here:
How do people find love? | YouGov
"Young people aged 18 to 24 first spot their crushes at university (18%), school (18%) or with mutual friends (15%). In contrast, 45- to 54-year-olds meet tend to meet at work (22%), by chance (19%) or through friends (16%)."

So, you are correct (for a certain age group), but it's not the overwhelming majority, and I suspect that will shift over time.

Personally, I think it's best to go via an intermediate step. For instance, I've worked at places (pre-pandemic) where some of the staff will have a 5-a-side football team, or go out to the pub together. I think it's ok to arrange a social event like that while you're at work. Similarly, once you're seeing someone socially outside of work, it's then ok to ask them out on a date.