Reply to: Bloody neighbour

[SueEllen]

Maybe you could buy him some easy-to-use computer game console, and a suitable game, "for his birthday"

If he is obsessive about strimming the lawn, perhaps he would be equally inclined to spend all day on the console.

as long as he didn't plug it into a stereo system, so you would have do endure 100 dB squawks and explosions all day!

Buy him some good looking headphones as well. Then show him how to use them......

[OwlHoot]

Maybe you could buy him some easy-to-use computer game console, and a suitable game, "for his birthday"

If he is obsessive about strimming the lawn, perhaps he would be equally inclined to spend all day on the console.

as long as he didn't plug it into a stereo system, so you would have do endure 100 dB squawks and explosions all day!

[TheLordDave]

How close is your house to his that you can hear disturbance in his house so much as to wake your kid up ?? Is it a flat or something ? I doubt a proper detached house ( you are living in a detached house , right ? ) will have so many issues with neighbours etc. In fact, I would prefer an acre of space between me and any neighbours.

Sadly no, it's an 80's end terrace. If I could get a sodding mortgage I would sell up in a heartbeat.

[Support Monkey]

From previous experience you won't win, you will always be on the lookout for issues and animosity will grow between both parties

The dog is simple, keep a record of all the times it barks over the period of a couple of weeks then pass this to the council dog warden, it's a thousand pound fine for allowing a dog to bark and cause a noise nuisance

The neighbour you need to go round and discuss it with them try and keep It amicable explain what your issues are ask him directly to tone it down, keep a record of all conversations and instances of when the issues occur, if the behaviour continues then report him to your local authority, even if the property is privately owned they can serve a nuisance abatement notice

Or the best options is to just move, I had 5 years of hassle with my neighbour tried all the reasonable avenues nothing worked so we sold up, and even though I thought they would be happy to see the back of us they even tried to put a mockers on that

[fullyautomatix]

FFS this place gets more like Mumsnet every day

It has never been the same ever since the Mumsnet invasion years ago. Its almost as if everybody acquired an injection of female hormones.

[fullyautomatix]

How close is your house to his that you can hear disturbance in his house so much as to wake your kid up ?? Is it a flat or something ? I doubt a proper detached house ( you are living in a detached house , right ? ) will have so many issues with neighbours etc. In fact, I would prefer an acre of space between me and any neighbours.

[tarbera]

Scratch his car door

[BrilloPad]

Talking? To a neighbour? In person?
Are you mad?

Seriously though as a parent of a disabled child who is likely to be in a similar situation in the future (living alone but with significant support), I would hope that this would be the approach taken.. Or speaking to the parents..

Some of the suggestions on here are ******** ridiculous, I know they were meant as jokes, but seriously... Kidnap a disabled guys dog... Yeah that's a GREAT idea and would have absolutely no negative consequences at all.

I hope that when your child gets older you speak to their neighbours to avoid this sort of situation.

Ideally the parents will be spoken to. But people don't behave perfectly. If you are unlucky your child will have a neighbour with intolerable stresses.

I really feel for your situation by the way. I have autistic children. Good luck!

[unixman]

Somehow doubt the veracity of OP, but ploughing on... obviously don't do anything illegal, like stealing dogs etc. Pick the worst two habits (barking dog, strimmer) and talk to his parents about it. Likely they have seen his behaviour patterns over decades so will understand, but be nice about it and don't just hand them a long list of problems with their son. They might be able to make helpful arrangements, arrange a carer to pop in daily, whatever.

They probably care about the lad and want him to fit in, so try and make friends with them.

[GlenW]

Get in Tony Blair as a peace envoy.

Then, if it goes totally tits up, Kate Adie.

[d000hg]

That would be my first port of call but they literally drop him on the street and pick him up on the street, which is hidden by my hedge, they pretty much never come to the house when I'm there.

They go out of their way to avoid us and the other neighbours. Maybe I need to wait outside at 9 and catch them at drop off.

Maybe they are embarrassed and/or have only had bad experiences with neighbours before.

It's worth a try to talk with them but easier if you lay some groundwork of politeness first.

[BrilloPad]

Get in Tony Blair as a peace envoy.

[BrilloPad]

FFS this place gets more like Mumsnet every day

I haven't seen anything on centreparcs sexual activities. Or Penis Beaker. Yet...

[Pondlife]

You could try befriending and supporting him a bit. Just a thought.

Steady on!

[NotAllThere]

I like the mix of compassion and downright viciousness - often in the same post.