The more of it I read the more I can see that she should certainly not be judged by her looks. Anyone taking a fancy to her would be allowing their willy to lead them into a very unpleasant relationship:
Three months ago I went to Italy with my then boyfriend, Philip. As we were checking into the hotel, I struck up a conversation with the receptionist in Italian (just one of the five languages I speak). But while I was enjoying myself, chatting away, it became clear that Philip most certainly was not.
He shuffled from foot to foot, muttered something under his breath and rolled his eyes like a stroppy teenager.
Then in the lift he turned on me. 'I was wondering when you were going to let me join your conversation,' he snapped. I tried to laugh it off but I knew this was the beginning of yet another argument.
'You always have to be the star of the show,' he continued in our bedroom, as he began to systematically work his way through the mini-bar. Apparently I was argumentative, a know-all and an intellectual snob.
What had I done? It should be depressingly obvious. I had dared to dent his fragile male ego.
By speaking in a language Philip didn't know, I had managed to make him - a successful writer, ten years my senior - feel small. How selfish of me to embarrass him
It is OK to talk to someone you do not know in their language whilst you are in the company of a friend (male or female) or family if it is out of necessity or it is just a few words , but it is quite another to engage in a full blown conversation in a language that your "comrade" has no understanding of. I do not know if anyone here has had this experience but striking up a conversation whilst you are having to stand there dumbly is actually quite rude because it automatically and crudely cuts the other person off the conversation. She doesn't seem to get that so either she is scoring points or she is showing off or she simply lacks the emotional intelligence to understand the impact her behaviour has. Her looks are beginning to stand out as her saving grace because her personality is pretty repulsive.
Three months ago I went to Italy with my then boyfriend, Philip. As we were checking into the hotel, I struck up a conversation with the receptionist in Italian (just one of the five languages I speak). But while I was enjoying myself, chatting away, it became clear that Philip most certainly was not.
He shuffled from foot to foot, muttered something under his breath and rolled his eyes like a stroppy teenager.
Then in the lift he turned on me. 'I was wondering when you were going to let me join your conversation,' he snapped. I tried to laugh it off but I knew this was the beginning of yet another argument.
'You always have to be the star of the show,' he continued in our bedroom, as he began to systematically work his way through the mini-bar. Apparently I was argumentative, a know-all and an intellectual snob.
What had I done? It should be depressingly obvious. I had dared to dent his fragile male ego.
By speaking in a language Philip didn't know, I had managed to make him - a successful writer, ten years my senior - feel small. How selfish of me to embarrass him
It is OK to talk to someone you do not know in their language whilst you are in the company of a friend (male or female) or family if it is out of necessity or it is just a few words , but it is quite another to engage in a full blown conversation in a language that your "comrade" has no understanding of. I do not know if anyone here has had this experience but striking up a conversation whilst you are having to stand there dumbly is actually quite rude because it automatically and crudely cuts the other person off the conversation. She doesn't seem to get that so either she is scoring points or she is showing off or she simply lacks the emotional intelligence to understand the impact her behaviour has. Her looks are beginning to stand out as her saving grace because her personality is pretty repulsive.
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