Still on bench and might have to sleep on it as well

[doodab]

I get the yummy mums and yakky mums round my house, its surprising how Mr Perfect becomes the 'wife abuser' in days without any apparent cause.

Anything you do that pisses them off = abuse

Anything they do that pisses you off = you being unreasonable, immature or petty

[MaryPoppins]

I know you had your own problems, but the fact of the matter is that for most men with a decent job: The only game you can play once your wife turns to a solicitor is burned crops and decimated land. One of the dads from my school spent 12 hours in police custody last week because his wife decided to make accusations about him beating his kids. This is a teenager old who can't wait to move in with him, and wont even talk to his mother because of her behaviour since the breakup, but now there are child services involved and a whole raft of tulip and my mate is on the DNA register and has a criminal entry for the rest of his life...

There is no room for honourable settlements because the solicitor will just take your inch and then demand even more. Spending half an hour on mumsnet will show you that the solicitors have a tried and tested method of screwing fathers.

I guess for every story like that, there's also one about terrible fathers/husbands.

People can be twats, is the moral of the story.

[vetran]

I guess for every story like that, there's also one about terrible fathers/husbands.

People can be twats, is the moral of the story.

true dat!

[MPwannadecentincome]

Anything you do that pisses them off = abuse

Anything they do that pisses you off = you being unreasonable, immature or petty

EXACTLY!

[MPwannadecentincome]

found a new place

at least I don't have to sleep on the bench - got a room in a house and all stuff moved out of old place. Even got a council tax refund (the whole year had been paid upfront) now OH begging me to pay her council tax (getting benefit but still has to pay diff between Band D and actual Band of property)

[DrBungle]

Good luck mate. Going through a similar thing myself right now. Hope it all works out for you.

[psychocandy]

I guess for every story like that, there's also one about terrible fathers/husbands.

People can be twats, is the moral of the story.

Such as my brother. Split up with his girlfriend. They had two kids.

He decided he couldnt afford the petrol to see the kids so didnt bother. Obviously, he decided he couldnt pay anything either.

Gf not totally blameless. Disappears with kids. Cue him moaning on fbook about how unfair it is that he doesnt know where his kids are and cant see them.

I even pointed out to him that for £200 he could get the court forms done to force her to give him access. Told me he couldnt afford it so didnt bother.

(BTW - hes a self-employed welder who earns A LOT).

[Old Greg]

Christ alive. Some of you lot are bitter buggers

As they have sown, so shall they reap.

[MaryPoppins]

Such as my brother. Split up with his girlfriend. They had two kids.

He decided he couldnt afford the petrol to see the kids so didnt bother. Obviously, he decided he couldnt pay anything either.

Gf not totally blameless. Disappears with kids. Cue him moaning on fbook about how unfair it is that he doesnt know where his kids are and cant see them.

I even pointed out to him that for £200 he could get the court forms done to force her to give him access. Told me he couldnt afford it so didnt bother.

(BTW - hes a self-employed welder who earns A LOT).

Sadly all too common. I'd much rather be in my position when I hear stuff like that. Like you say though, GF is probably not blameless either.

[psychocandy]

I know someone as well and this sounds not right.

All went amicably to start with. Sold the house split the proceeds of the profit.£40K total.

BUT, credit card bills were £20K so husband expects pay this, and then split the remaining £20K. £10K each.

So gets advice from her solicitor and he says dont pay the CC - leave it to him. The cards were in his name and she was a cardholder.

End result hes got to pay the bills leaving him with nothing and she gets to keep £20K. Apparently, his solicitor told him he could do nothg about it.

Thats just wrong surely....?