Who on here doesn't have children?

[Old Hack]

Considering that many biological parents do not give a crap about their children, everything you wrote there is pretty idealistic babble.

Any adoptive parents wish to get properly offended at this? I'll leave that to you, I can't be bothered conversing with someone so full of themselves.

If only reserved for your biological offspring, this 'unconditional love' you're blabbing about must be a pretty vain and selfish feeling.

Many or some? Some parents don't give a crap, hence my use of the word 'fit', which you've conveniently ignored. But you carry on.

Absolute, unconditional love is a vain and selfish thing? Are you clear on that? Well, I guess you've already answered the questions I have raised, in the way I thought you would about being a step parent.

[SupremeSpod]

Just saying it as it is Spod.

I don't think any step parent in the world can feel the same about the child as the childrens natural parents. I just don't. I do not think, at the end of the day, if the chips were down, they'd put the kid in front of themselves.

Or do you not feel the same way about yours?

We're not discussing my family, we're discussing the fact that you've done step-parents around the world a massive injustice.

[Old Hack]

We're not discussing my family, we're discussing the fact that you've done step-parents around the world a massive injustice.

So you're bottling on answering the question? Interesting.

I still maintain, there is no way a step parent can feel the same as a natural parent. It really is as simple as that.

[pjclarke]

Cost of raising a child rises to £218,000 | Money | guardian.co.uk

Ah, that explains the lack of of a seven digit bank balance, then ;-)

[Gibbon]

Just saying it as it is Spod.

I don't think any step parent in the world can feel the same about the child as the childrens natural parents. I just don't. I do not think, at the end of the day, if the chips were down, they'd put the kid in front of themselves.

Or do you not feel the same way about yours?

Yep. What a load of sanctimonious bollocks. You are wrong, co there's a least one step parent who loves his step daughter as much as his own two kids.

[formant]

Many or some? Some parents don't give a crap, hence my use of the word 'fit', which you've conveniently ignored. But you carry on.

Absolute, unconditional love is a vain and selfish thing? Are you clear on that? Well, I guess you've already answered the questions I have raised, in the way I thought you would about being a step parent.

No, you deliberately misunderstood that. Any kind of 'unconditional love' that is only reserved for one's own biological offspring is selfish and vain.

There is other unconditional love. You've clearly got no experience of that.

[Old Hack]

Yep. What a load of sanctimonious bollocks. You are wrong, co there's a least one step parent who loves his step daughter as much as his own two kids.

Well, we can agree to disagree

[norrahe]

Cost of raising a child rises to £218,000 | Money | guardian.co.uk

Ah, that explains the lack of of a seven digit bank balance, then ;-)

A lot of people in the insane drive to have a kid kind of forgot that they cost money.

I don't know how many people who have moaned about being broke all the time when they have kids.

[SupremeSpod]

So you're bottling on answering the question? Interesting.

I still maintain, there is no way a step parent can feel the same as a natural parent. It really is as simple as that.

I'm not bottling it at all, I'm not entering into a debate about my family, I'm merely pointing out that you've probably offended quite a few step-parents.

[Old Hack]

No, you deliberately misunderstood that. Any kind of 'unconditional love' that is only reserved for one's own biological offspring is selfish and vain.

There is other unconditional love. You've clearly got no experience of that.

I love my wife unconditionally, but would always put my kids in front of her. I believe she'd do the same.

I don't have much love of that kind outside of those quarters, and I am happy about it. As for it being selfish and vain, well, as I said, you've answered any questions I have had.