Who on here doesn't have children?

[Halo Jones]

and play board games once a week.

What board games do (did) you play, BGG & I have over 100 now..

I ran a table top RPG for a friend's stag

What system did you run?
Yes BGG & I are geeks

Just tell 'em that you'd love to have kids, but given your health issues (sorry to hear about it btw), it's best not to. That'll make the smeggers feel really guilty.

That feels a bit of a cop out & pandering to their view that as a female I need kids…

Alternatively, tell them you were originally Hal Jones...

Now that could be fun… & weirdly believable as I am not a delicate girly type…especially when kicking around a building site in full PPE

[SimonMac]

I always wanted kids, but found out I couldn't But then one time when I was working away I got a call from the missus saying she as pregnant.


Who's the daddy!

[MyUserName]

What board games do (did) you play, BGG & I have over 100 now..

Ah - a fellow gamer??!?!??!?!!

My favourties are RoboRally, Settlers of Catan and Citadels. My wife loves The Fury of Dracula so we used to play that a fair amount too.

Which did you favour?

What system did you run?
Yes BGG & I are geeks

I used to run a weekly Cthulhu campaign, with the original rules and then I switched to GURPS. Now I generally run psychological horror games (I have props for the Necronomicon etc) or games set in the Firefly universe but using the GURPS rules.

For the stag night I made up my own system and assigned each player a film character (James Bond, Conan etc) and pretty much winged things as we went along. Several of the guys were not RPG players so the rules had to be virtually invisable. The main villan was Count Von VonVon who killed people by throwing Lugers at them and was invulnerable apart from one weakness, they players missed all of the clues and had no idea how to kill him. His body guard was a 6" talking rabbit with a flick knife (he actually killed two of the characters off).

They randomly tried to kick Von VonVon the nads which happend to be the one thing that would kill him.

Which systems do/did you use?

[Mich the Tester]

I always wanted kids, but found out I couldn't But then one time when I was working away I got a call from the missus saying she as pregnant.


Who's the daddy!

[MyUserName]

I always wanted kids, but found out I couldn't But then one time when I was working away I got a call from the missus saying she as pregnant.


Who's the daddy?

FTFY

[Old Hack]

1. I already have two young stepdaughters, so I'm not 'new' to life with kids and 'not being #1'. Life adjusting to new circumstances isn't the same as the 180 degree personality change that many predict must happen once women have children.
2. Would be nice if that was the case, but I don't see that being the norm yet.
3. I still don't think that having kids is a 'necessary' experience. Having lived with my two stepdaughters for a few years now however has shown me that it's generally a much more worthwile and rewarding experience than I once thought. And a lot less 'hard work' than people claim. I sure didn't expect I'd say this, but I think, most of the time, it's a lot of fun.

#1. Sorry, but if they're not yours, you will not feel the amount of love you will do if they are your own. I, and most parents here, would lay in front of a car for my (their) children, literally give them my organs and die myself, if that was needed; you really, really do not understand absolute, unconditional love.

#2. It is the case, amongst every single one of the parents whom I know. If your view is clouded, that's all it is, for in the world of the 'fit' parent, and I don't mean the parents who spend lots of time down the gym, that's what you do.

#3. You will never worry about the children if they are not yours, not the way a parent would. seriously. You'll not experience he highs, or lows, as much. I have had a kid hospitalised, and it drains the life from you. I have also had a child be given gifted and talented status by the school, and nothing you will have ever done on your own matches it. Seriously. I don't know at what age you picked up the step kids in your life, but it is hard work, incredibly hard work, for many reasons.

I know this is possibly a little too subjective for you, but that's how it is when you have a child and nothing can prepare you for it, when it happens. I was knocked sideways and didn't think I would be like I am, but you put them first in every discussion. Holidays, the kids come first. Meal planning, the kids come first, days out, the kids come first. Things to be done, the kids come first.

Life changes overnight. I wouldn't have it any other way.

[Halo Jones]

Ah - a fellow gamer??!?!??!?!!

Oh indeed, BGG, who used to post on here is BoardGameGeek, I was innocent until I met him & now I am a geek too..

Which did you favour?

I love settlers when played with seafarers & cities & knights, all the old GW games, for table-top battles its warhammer 40K at present but I do have a 25k point high elf army, have a large selection of MTG cards but not played that in a while.

Which systems do/did you use?

The 3 main systems we played last year were Pathfinder, Vampire the Masquerade & Dark Hearsay, but we do have copies of Deadlands, D&D, Gurps, Tales of the Floating Vagabond, D20 Modern, Castle Falkensiten, Judge Dread, Traveller, Kobolds ate my baby, toon, warhammer, 5 Rings, Cthulhu, Mage, Slaine, Imnominae, Shadowrun & a few others I can’t remember just now.

We still play games regularly of all types

[formant]

#1. Sorry, but if they're not yours, you will not feel the amount of love you will do if they are your own. I, and most parents here, would lay in front of a car for my (their) children, literally give them my organs and die myself, if that was needed; you really, really do not understand absolute, unconditional love.

#2. It is the case, amongst every single one of the parents whom I know. If your view is clouded, that's all it is, for in the world of the 'fit' parent, and I don't mean the parents who spend lots of time down the gym, that's what you do.

#3. You will never worry about the children if they are not yours, not the way a parent would. seriously. You'll not experience he highs, or lows, as much. I have had a kid hospitalised, and it drains the life from you. I have also had a child be given gifted and talented status by the school, and nothing you will have ever done on your own matches it. Seriously. I don't know at what age you picked up the step kids in your life, but it is hard work, incredibly hard work, for many reasons.

I know this is possibly a little too subjective for you, but that's how it is when you have a child and nothing can prepare you for it, when it happens. I was knocked sideways and didn't think I would be like I am, but you put them first in every discussion. Holidays, the kids come first. Meal planning, the kids come first, days out, the kids come first. Things to be done, the kids come first.

Life changes overnight. I wouldn't have it any other way.

Considering that many biological parents do not give a crap about their children, everything you wrote there is pretty idealistic babble.

Any adoptive parents wish to get properly offended at this? I'll leave that to you, I can't be bothered conversing with someone so full of themselves.

If only reserved for your biological offspring, this 'unconditional love' you're blabbing about must be a pretty vain and selfish feeling.

Regarding #2: If that was the case women wouldn't get so much crap for not wanting to do it all themselves, we'd already have equality in paternity rights and the father's position in family law. Sadly, that's not at all the case. Mothers get placed on pedestals while fathers get completely disregarded in most things child-related (I suggest you try to access the baby changing facilities in a shop like Mothercare if you've not experienced anything like it- they don't allow men in there). And that's all manifested by the vast majority of couples choosing a traditionalist gender role distribution the moment kids come into play. I have a partner who's 'better' than that, who couldn't be more involved with his girls, but I realise, that I am lucky and in the minority.

[SupremeSpod]

#1. Sorry, but if they're not yours, you will not feel the amount of love you will do if they are your own. I, and most parents here, would lay in front of a car for my (their) children, literally give them my organs and die myself, if that was needed; you really, really do not understand absolute, unconditional love.

#2. It is the case, amongst every single one of the parents whom I know. If your view is clouded, that's all it is, for in the world of the 'fit' parent, and I don't mean the parents who spend lots of time down the gym, that's what you do.

#3. You will never worry about the children if they are not yours, not the way a parent would. seriously. You'll not experience he highs, or lows, as much. I have had a kid hospitalised, and it drains the life from you. I have also had a child be given gifted and talented status by the school, and nothing you will have ever done on your own matches it. Seriously. I don't know at what age you picked up the step kids in your life, but it is hard work, incredibly hard work, for many reasons.

I know this is possibly a little too subjective for you, but that's how it is when you have a child and nothing can prepare you for it, when it happens. I was knocked sideways and didn't think I would be like I am, but you put them first in every discussion. Holidays, the kids come first. Meal planning, the kids come first, days out, the kids come first. Things to be done, the kids come first.

Life changes overnight. I wouldn't have it any other way.

You sound like one of those pissed-up "I love my kids" absent fathers you find at parties who insists on telling all and sundry that no-one can love kids as much as he loves his.

You've just insulted every step-parent on the planet.

[Old Hack]

You sound like one of those pissed-up "I love my kids" absent fathers you find at parties who insists on telling all and sundry that no-one can love kids as much as he loves his.

You've just insulted every step-parent on the planet.

Just saying it as it is Spod.

I don't think any step parent in the world can feel the same about the child as the childrens natural parents. I just don't. I do not think, at the end of the day, if the chips were down, they'd put the kid in front of themselves.

Or do you not feel the same way about yours?