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It's either that or they don't get fed, eh Corporal?Originally posted by shaunbhoy View PostSpeak for yourself. I bond just fine with all of my kids.
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They all get a fair shot at going up the chimney without fear nor favour. It is the only fair way.Originally posted by SupremeSpod View Post“The period of the disintegration of the European Union has begun. And the first vessel to have departed is Britain”Comment
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So that's why you don't feed them? Keep them thin.....Originally posted by shaunbhoy View PostComment
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I genuinely do not think you could derive a love as strong as the bond of your own child. Genuinely. Maybe I am wrong, but I can't think how it would be possible. Having spoken to Mrs OH about it, she agrees that she'd struggle to be able to love a child like her own, as she not only carried and delivered the baby, but in those intial moments post birth, comes a physical bonding most could't shake if they tried.
I saw all of my kids born, and I cannot explain what I went through, so doubt a woman could either. My wife and I know we're both behind the kids in the pecking order, despite a very strong love and relationship. It's just teh way it is.
No one could have explained to me just what would change in my life the day the child was born. No one. You just have to experience it. I geuinely cannot see how that could ever be derived. I just can't. From helpless infant through to a strong minded and willed child, I don't think this could happen.Comment
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This from someone without a child. Amazing. You bond with each child. I have bonded equally with all of them, at different times. I have worked at home for the past year and a bit, so the youngest and I bonded far quicker than the others, as I have been here night and day, but we've all bonded and bonded well. As for favourites. If you think like that, you're building yourself up a whole world of pain.Originally posted by formant View PostComment
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To quote Old HackThats fine but you have as good as told people that came on here saying that they do have step children and love them to that level that they are basically wrong as they don't have their own so they can never know.I have children. I have stated I do not believe I could love a step child as much as my own children. That's all.
You keep mentioning your being honest as you don't know if you could love a step child the same, so how can you tell them they are wrong in how they feel when YOU DON'T KNOW as you don't have any step children.Comment
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I don't think it is possible. I don't, for the reasons I have stated. I know how I feel about my children, and knowing I would literally give up my life for them, and can't see how you'd have that bond. I genuinely do not think it possible to have been with a child from inception through birth into childhood and beyond can be replicated by something you have no tie to, other than througha relationship with another person.Originally posted by curtis View Post
As I said, I am not saying I am right, just that I personally do not think it physically possible. And saying you will never know what it is like until you have a child of your own, is factual. The rest is based on how I feel, physically, and judging it from there.Comment
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It seems most posters with an opinion have their own kids or step kids, but not both.
formant will be in a good position in a year's time to tell us whether she can and does love them all the same.
FWIW, my hubby has always insisted that it's made no difference to him that the oldest isn't biologically his. Of course, he could be lying...Comment
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