Who on here doesn't have children?

[NotAllThere]

I love my wife unconditionally, but would always put my kids in front of her. I believe she'd do the same.

I always put my wife before my kids. She does the same. However, that effectively results in us putting the kids first.

[d000hg]

I always put my wife before my kids. She does the same. However, that effectively results in us putting the kids first.

I would say the husband's primary responsibility is to the wife and vice versa. Parents have the responsibility to love and bring up their children, but the marriage is the most important relationship; children come from a marriage rather than eclipsing it, and the marriage should still be there long after the children have left to live their own adult lives.

[SupremeSpod]

I would say the husband's primary responsibility is to the wife and vice versa. Parents have the responsibility to love and bring up their children, but the marriage is the most important relationship; children come from a marriage rather than eclipsing it, and the marriage should still be there long after the children have left to live their own adult lives.

+1

You choose your spouse but make your children.

[EternalOptimist]

relationships can break down. No one goes into a marriage/relationship thinking it might break down. But they do
Sometimes your relationship with your kid can break down. it does happen.

The big difference is that if an ex who you dont get on with gets runover by a bus, hey, thats sad isnt it.
If a step child who you dont get on with gets run over by a bus, hey. you tried to be fair by that kid, buts its a bit sad that they got flattened.
If your own estranged kid was threatened by a bus, you would still stand up in front of it

and thats the acid test.
not when things are going well and the angels are singing and the sun is shining. but when there is absolutely nothing in it for you

[Old Hack]

+1

You choose your spouse but make your children.

I disagree completely: you have a responsibility to the children that you chose to bring into this world; you dont make them, you create them, through your own choice so of course anything you do, first has to have their considerations at heart.

I love my wife completely, and I know she feels the same way too, yet if one of our children, and I were upside down in the car in a river and she could only save one of us, it would be the child. I would be the same. My wife has lived a life, but we chose to bring the kids into the world, so have an obligation to them we don't have to our partners. Our marriage is, of course, of great importance to the family unit, but, as I said, the obligation we have to our children is massive.

I really do not understand the expression that you put your wife first, and she you, but that means you put the kids first; it doesn't make sense to me. All of the decisions we have made in life, have come from wanting a better life for the kids. All of the decisions we make, have them at the forefront.

[MarillionFan]

Wives come and go. Children are forever.

[SupremeSpod]

Wives come and go. Children are forever.

What are you going to talk about with your Mrs when the kids leave home?

[Old Hack]

What are you going to talk about with your Mrs when the kids leave home?

The same tulip we talk about now I would presume. We talk about the stuff most people do, or do you think as we put the kids first in any situation, that we have nothing else to talk about?

[SupremeSpod]

The same tulip we talk about now I would presume. We talk about the stuff most people do, or do you think as we put the kids first in any situation, that we have nothing else to talk about?

I was asking a question, not putting forward my own thoughts on the matter.

[Old Hack]

I was asking a question, not putting forward my own thoughts on the matter.

Wel done; You're improving in that area...

Would be good for you to join in the debate by actually contributing to it though, rather than, well, doing what you're doing...