Children with ADHD. Real or bad parenting?

[Scoi]

My mum works at my old high school. Since i left they built a new block for students who require extra help for ADHD Aspergers and Autism. 20% of all pupils have to go there.

We all had kids in our class who couldn't listen or behave but this isn't ADHD it's bad kids usually from bad parenting.

It definitely exists though. My eldest brother is a right plank. Zero GCSE's as he literally couldn't focus on anything but an Atari/Spectrum/Game boy for more than 10 minutes. He'd even leave half his dinner because he was bored eating it. Still the same in his thirties and will go weeks without showering because its boring.

Doctors and teachers like to diagnose very quickly as it helps the school and the parents financially.

[NotAllThere]

My OH is a teacher, she has kids in her class who've not been decently parented, feel unloved, without the safety of boundaries, and don't know what to do with themselves. She knows when they've not had their sedatives to keep them under control because they go ballistic.

My OH is a teacher, she has kids in her class with ADHD. She knows when they've not had their fix because they go ballistic due to withdrawal symptoms.

I mean - I do wonder...

[BrilloPad]

A mate of mine who I knew very well discovered that he was better off on benefits and went on it. Met him a year later and he had got his perfectly normal son diagnosed with Aspergers and because of which he went to the top of council housing list and is now living in a detached 4 bed house. There are other perks he got he said but I was not listening,just angry that he would insist that the school diagnose his child with a syndrome that I know he hasnt got.

Remember that the school will have aided him. To get the extra funding.

We tried to cope with our elder autistic one by just getting a bit of extra help from the school. They were unhelpful at every turn. Took 3 years to get any help for him atall. Hence we got the younger autistic one diagnosed pre school - but of course he goes to a school more suitable for special needs.

Going to take revenge on school. Going to write a letter listing all their faults. Then send it to Ofsted. A great idea of Mrs BP's best friend who is an educational psychologist. It will totally fook them up. 9 months to go until I can do it - when elder son moves on.

[NonnyMouse]

My OH is a teacher, she has kids in her class with ADHD. She knows when they've not had their medication because they go ballistic. Additionally, she knows of some parents who have tried to get their kids diagnosed as having ADHD unnecessarily simply to get the 'perks' that go with it.

Not the first time I've heard that - a local mum say's her sons pre-school teacher can tell when he hasn't had his fish oil supplement.....

However a friend of mine went to run a summer camp in America where every kid had been diagnosed with ADHD,
my friend took them all of their medication and did a lot of outdoor sporty stuff with them - every one of those kids was totally fine without their medicines.

[fullyautomatix]

My OH is a teacher, she has kids in her class with ADHD. She knows when they've not had their medication because they go ballistic. Additionally, she knows of some parents who have tried to get their kids diagnosed as having ADHD unnecessarily simply to get the 'perks' that go with it.

A mate of mine who I knew very well discovered that he was better off on benefits and went on it. Met him a year later and he had got his perfectly normal son diagnosed with Aspergers and because of which he went to the top of council housing list and is now living in a detached 4 bed house. There are other perks he got he said but I was not listening,just angry that he would insist that the school diagnose his child with a syndrome that I know he hasnt got.

[MaryPoppins]

I don't care how slim your kid's tellys are, or what their resolution is. You're still an awful human being, and by implication a bad parent.

A tad harsh, even by my standards

[Incognito]

My OH is a teacher, she has kids in her class with ADHD. She knows when they've not had their medication because they go ballistic. Additionally, she knows of some parents who have tried to get their kids diagnosed as having ADHD unnecessarily simply to get the 'perks' that go with it.

[Halo Jones]

As with any mental illness it’s a difficult one, & likely it’s going to end up being a medical condition for some & a cop out for others.

ME is in the same bracket, I know some who use it as an excuse & one friend is severely disabled by it.

As the doctors can’t even agree on this I shall give the benefit of doubt & try to be charitable of thought.

[blacjac]

Is ADHD a disability?

AFAIK ADHD can be treated with medication (or, frequently, dietary changes). To me a disability can't be negated through medication.

The definition of a disability for the purpose of the disability discrimination act is a condition that, if left untreated, would hinder your day to day life.

So diabetes for example is a disability, for the purpose of the disability discrimination act.

[northernladuk]

Is ADHD a disability?

AFAIK ADHD can be treated with medication (or, frequently, dietary changes). To me a disability can't be negated through medication.

The affects of it can be managed with medication not treated. There is a difference I believe...

I do believe their are some unfortunate children with ADHD and from what I have seen it isn't nice but like a lot of these like this and Autism the line between a real problem and an excuse for bad behaviour gets very grey. They say blushing and shyness is now in illness that can be treated with medication and am sure in extreme cases it is feels like a disability but someone that blushes once in awhile can't claim they are suffering from an illness as well...