Children with ADHD. Real or bad parenting?

[MarillionFan]

"So after what 8 years, we have a proper school for my son. Thank **** for that."

Spoke to soon. And he's out of school again. Kicked out of his new special school which supposedly doesnt kick people out, so back to square one.

Just four weeks into the term. Nice. Glad I spent all that money.

Private school, only seems to care about the money. He's been there a month, and spends most of it wandering around on his own. He phoned on Wednesday in tears, on his own in the woods, saying he hated it. Another kid had hurt him, and he had deregulated. He then rubbed his phone over a teachers car which left a mark and a small scratch. We'd already been in a week earlier as he alledged a carer had shoved him against the wall, which they denied, but when I called them out, they said they'd put there arm around him (I aint buying it)

Excluded for damage to a car. The headteacher said 'I may struggle to keep staff if their cars aren't safe' Tosser.

Review bought forward and they said he will need to find another school. plus he needs to show contrition when we go into today about the car. I may land up lamping someone myself.

[BlueSharp]

Congratulations, that is a great result. My nephew is on the spectrum and has ADHD. He left school at 16 and is now at an agricultural college, who quite frankly have been brilliant. For what ever reason the under 16 education providers have been awful and he left school with no qualifications. But he has found a niche and things are improving.

[Pogle]

Well done Sir, your tenacity paid off, it is an effing disgrace that you have to fight just to get your kid in the right environment for them.

Just think how many parents get fobbed off as they don’t have the money or skills to fight for their child.
My daughter has ADHD & ASD and is now – with a lot of help - at university.

Without being able to afford private help I dread to think where she would have been now. Don’t get me wrong it’s not plain sailing now and the lockdown is really not helping, but she is in a much better place than she was at 13, no thanks to CAMHS.

[vetran]

good news!

[ladymuck]

So after what 8 years, we have a proper school for my son. Thank **** for that.

[AtW]

It’s them knowing you won’t be able to claim costs of litigation, which is bonkers

Good result tho - that chalk really paid off!

[MarillionFan]

And FINALLY it's over.

£12000 in legal fees, another £10000 to spend as we got closer to Tribunal.
The Local authority chose a school that was the wrong fit and we've been taken to a few weeks before Tribunal.

Two schools we wanted decided they couldn't meet needs. The one we wanted, left it until a week ago to assess, and even though they said they could do it for a year, they reckoned longer term they couldn't do it.

LA stuff with the an ex-borstal for SEMH kids. Even the headmaster said he wasn't sure, but said probably and so the LA ran with it.
Then when our last school fell through, they thought they had us and were going to send him to a school we had said was wrong. Our experts said, no. Had to pay a fortune for reports.

Then on Friday last week we had an offer from a specialist school outside of county which was more expensive than all the others. They told us they would fight and that we'd have to move or pay transport costs (£25-£30k a year).

Then our expert went to the school they said, and after meeting the headmaster he admitted it was wrong for our son, and withdrew.

So with a few days to go until I had to bite the bullet on another £10k, the local authority threw in the towel. We get the school offered and they pay for all transports.

Turns out the school had never said they could, said they might if they get the new paperwork and the incompetence of the LA meant we had to fight them all they way! Pity I can't claim costs.

So after what 8 years, we have a proper school for my son. Thank **** for that.

[NotAllThere]

It's good to admit you've only yourself to blame.

Even a mod is having a pop.

Wind your neck in there. The indicates that the comment is absolutely not meant to be taken seriously.

[BrilloPad]

Nope, but in public he is a massive twunt, the irony is the messages i've had with him on the subject, and speaking to those who know him IRL it's only an internet persona that he portrays, but he doesn't help himself when he wants to talk about something serious and personal to him.

Indeed he should have set up a sockie to raise the subject.

Or return to use one of the many he used during the early rep days....

[SimonMac]

I was very pleased to be able to change someone's mind. Especially on an important a subject as Autism.

MF is not the most abusive round here by any means.

Nope, but in public he is a massive twunt, the irony is the messages i've had with him on the subject, and speaking to those who know him IRL it's only an internet persona that he portrays, but he doesn't help himself when he wants to talk about something serious and personal to him.