One for the parents among us....

[doodab]

If they put you in a home so they can sell your house then you've ****ed up

[Gibbon]

Bailing them out of jail, then yes, popping a cheque in the post as they've had a lot of stuff go wrong, some unforeseen purchase, are just a bit short, then no.

To be frank, parents will always bail you out, even if you don't need it. 3 years ago, we'd just bought a new car, paid for a holiday, new tv and some other stuff, and mentioned casually, that this was our spending over for the year (as a joke). 2 days later a hamper appeared with a note attached saying just in case we were short. This was to two contractors earning in excess of £100k. Parents feel an obligation to help, regardless, and it will always be the same.

We'll have to disagree then.

[Doggy Styles]

If they put you in a home so they can sell your house then you've ****ed up

On the contrary, as financially astute contractors, shouldn't we be proud of them?

[DodgyAgent]

Sorry for touching a nerve there. For us the well-being of our children is more important than shallow consumerism. Each to their own I guess.

This is the sort of fascist presumptuousness that so many women have to face from ignorant bigots

[BrilloPad]

If they put you in a home so they can sell your house then you've ****ed up

I intend to be a burden to my children.

[doodab]

I intend to be a burden to my children.

Exactly. I'm expecting some really cool toys as well as room and board.

[cailin maith]

I intend to be a burden to my children.

Too late!

[SimonMac]

If they put you in a home so they can sell your house then you've ****ed up

On the contrary, as financially astute contractors, shouldn't we be proud of them?

We are contractors, not agents!

[d000hg]

It would be nice if society could support the choices of each family without piling on the guilt.

Most of us do the best we can for our kids given our own situations. That's all we can ask for.

Society wants to make sure the parents choices are not detrimental to the child, that's all.

I absolutely approve of a system where the child's well-being is more sacrosanct than the parents' privacy. Of course the implementation of such a system is very hard, but this idea that "they're my children, I'll do what I want with them" is not beneficial. They're not interfering to prevent your choices, but to prevent your children being damaged by your choices.

[BoredBloke]

Zeeland, Netherlands

I lived round there for 18 months as a kid (7) in Ternuezen.