Girlfriend says its either her or the cat! (while crying in the middle of a walk)

[SupremeSpod]

I'm pretty rubbish at dating W, especially after the last effort, but here goes...

I think you might get too serious too quickly, maybe have a friendship with her before you bump uglies. Talk about stuff, as much stuff as possible, ask her lots about herself, see if she wants to know about you, how she speaks about other relationships and their endings is a big clue and interest, real interest in you is a clue as well. (Does she want to know about your life, your dreams your childhood etc?)

As modern as I am a think any woman who 'chases' a man is probably a bit desperate, the man needs to do the chasing bit, she also seems too quick and willing to compromise and compromise is two people agreeing to do what they both know is wrong.

I think lots of people don't make life easy for themselves, but there are clues here W!

That's bollocks.

You've got to have that "**** in hell, I'd shag that!" spark first.

[cailin maith]

That's bollocks.

You've got to have that "**** in hell, I'd shag that!" spark first.

Who says Romance is dead?

[SupremeSpod]

Who says Romance is dead?

Am I wrong?

[cailin maith]

Am I wrong?

[SupremeSpod]

Dead?

I think they've cremated it & scattered the ashes.

To all four winds.

[alreadypacked]

Am I wrong?

Boudica is not saying you don't need that spark. What she is saying is you should not act on it the first chance you get. Get to know the person first, if you still feel it after you know them better then act on it.

[norrahe]

Dead?

I think they've cremated it & scattered the ashes.

Can't say much about the ceremony but there were some good drinks afterwards.

[RichardCranium]

I think you might get too serious too quickly, maybe have a friendship with her before you bump uglies.

You're not really into the messy, sticky bits of having a relationship, are you?

My sister-in-law has the one child. She's a bit "Tried it once, didn't like it" kind of person too.

[EternalOptimist]

Boudica is not saying you don't need that spark. What she is saying is you should not act on it the first chance you get. Get to know the person first, if you still feel it after you know them better then act on it.

No. I think it was Aristotle, or possibly Senca who postulated in his series on Society - 'if you dont get your bare t1t on the first date - forget it son'

[Boudica]

You're not really into the messy, sticky bits of having a relationship, are you?

My sister-in-law has the one child. She's a bit "Tried it once, didn't like it" kind of person too.

probably the opposite, i've only had one bf who thought i was 'normal' and not 'too demanding' in that area

go to the bottom of the class RC!

i was foolishly trying to help W learn from my errors...the spark may be there but there are sooo many other things that count. i know quite a few men who think their gf / woman is the most sexual sexy woman in the world but she treats them like crap and lifts her white nightie once a month if they're lucky!