Bullying on this forum

[NeverBeenNorthOfTheM25]

That's why it's called a complex.



And I highly recommend the ignore list.

you tell em Not all there!

[TheFaQQer]

realityhack
Ninjalike

So, a mod in disguise, then.....

[sasguru]

Of late this place has got a little bit nasty imvho. I'm all for the typical CUK robust response, and can laugh at myself, but just lately things have been getting a little out of hand from where I sit. Certain posters.

Am I just a 'bedwetter'? Well perhaps not, judging by the PMs and emails I get from various posters.

So in good ole fashioned CUK I thought I'd put it to the vote.

1. Its impossible to get bullied on a forum. Simply surf away.
2. Ever heard of the stiff upper lip? You'd be well advised to cultivate it. We don't want to hear every gushing thought that happens to occur in your little mind.

HTH

[NotAllThere]

There is a subtle trap in an abusive situation - and this applies to relationships, work and on-line forums.

The abuse starts off at a level that's "not so bad". What happens then is the abuser starts to escalate. So, little slap becomes a punch. But the abused doesn't look at the action with reference to normality - they compare it with the previous level of abuse. And so they become trapped. Some people are able to compare with normality, but a signficant number of people, it seems, aren't. Their friends and relatives tell them that they're being abused, but they can't see it. They've gone beyond the point where they can "just surf away".

There are people who will quite deliberately set out to entrap people in this way - just for kicks.

I would have thought, however, that most contractors are sufficiently independently minded not to get into such a situation.

[NeverBeenNorthOfTheM25]

There are people who will quite deliberately set out to entrap people in this way - just for kicks.

Name names.

[minestrone]

I would have thought, however, that most contractors are sufficiently independently minded not to get into such a situation.

Nick, Dick and suity, I think that was for you.

[sasguru]

There is a subtle trap in an abusive situation - and this applies to relationships, work and on-line forums.

The abuse starts off at a level that's "not so bad". What happens then is the abuser starts to escalate. So, little slap becomes a punch. But the abused doesn't look at the action with reference to normality - they compare it with the previous level of abuse. And so they become trapped. Some people are able to compare with normality, but a signficant number of people, it seems, aren't. Their friends and relatives tell them that they're being abused, but they can't see it. They've gone beyond the point where they can "just surf away".

There are people who will quite deliberately set out to entrap people in this way - just for kicks.

I would have thought, however, that most contractors are sufficiently independently minded not to get into such a situation.

Well the point being that forums are different from relationships and work in the real world. You can't escape from the latter that easily if things go wrong but you can go to another forum (or even another part of the forum) if you don't like this one e.g. because its too robust.
FFS we have TPD II for the faint of heart.
i don't think over-sensitive newbies should try to change the tenor of General - that is in fact a form of bullying.

[NeverBeenNorthOfTheM25]

i don't think over-sensitive newbies should try to change the tenor of General - that is in fact a form of bullying.

Isnt it the regulars, aka Suit and Rick who are the faint-of-heart ones?

[NotAllThere]

Name names.

Nah. I'm going to the pub now.

[NeverBeenNorthOfTheM25]

Nah. I'm going to the pub now.

lol ........ what? and miss the end of the F1 race???