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[TheBigD]

Are you for fu3king real?!!!

That seems a pretty good deal.

My partner and I have been looking at nurseries as she's due to return to work. Got a list of every nursery in the areas where we live, and where my wife works, cross reference this with their OFSTED reports to weed out the cowboys, and the average price is about £40-45 per day (so approx £900 per month).

Fortunatly, it'll only be for a day or two per week!

[oracleslave]

Are you for fu3king real?!!!

A mate of mine pays £1000 a month for nursery for his daughter who lives with his ex-girlfriend plus another £1500 rent for somewhere for them to live.

[SallyAnne]

A mate of mine pays £1000 a month for nursery for his daughter who lives with his ex-girlfriend plus another £1500 rent for somewhere for them to live.

So he basically HAS to contract then? he must contract surely? Who can afford that otherwise?

Ah I really really pity anyone who HAS to do this - this should be a lifestyle choice, for a purpose (either a 5 year plan to pay off a house or buy a boat, or a new kitchen etc etc)

Seriously, I'd rather pack in work and get a coucil house and be with my kids full time than live this lifestyle and pay all the money out on childcare! What is the point?!!! Just so you can have a nice car? Or eat in posh restaraunts?

Utterly pointless. To me at least...then...I was raised very well in a council house, so I guess I have different values.

[SallyAnne]

the average price is about £40-45 per day (so approx £900 per month).

Utterly insane.

[Pickle2]

Utterly insane.

How much woukd you charge then SA? Quick, back of a fag packet, costing.

[oracleslave]

So he basically HAS to contract then? he must contract surely? Who can afford that otherwise?

Yes he does contract, because he prefers it.

What is the point?!!! Just so you can have a nice car? Or eat in posh restaraunts?

The point is to provide your kids with the best possible environment and opportunities that you are reasonably able to. Contracting is just a means to that end.

[snaw]

So he basically HAS to contract then? he must contract surely? Who can afford that otherwise?

Ah I really really pity anyone who HAS to do this - this should be a lifestyle choice, for a purpose (either a 5 year plan to pay off a house or buy a boat, or a new kitchen etc etc)

Seriously, I'd rather pack in work and get a coucil house and be with my kids full time than live this lifestyle and pay all the money out on childcare! What is the point?!!! Just so you can have a nice car? Or eat in posh restaraunts?

Utterly pointless. To me at least...then...I was raised very well in a council house, so I guess I have different values.

Nice car. No. Posh restaurants. No.

It's so we can go a couple of holidays a year, pay off some of our mortage, save a wee bit of cash. My wife likes working, she doesn't want to be a full time mum - she works part time, gets satisfaction from that and still gets to see the kids plenty.

Every one is entitled to make their own choices, and it's easy to critisise others when you're not in that situation.

[SallyAnne]

The point is to provide your kids with the best possible environment and opportunities that you are reasonably able to.

What opportunituies is your kid getting at nursery like? Access to the best crayons available?

[SallyAnne]

Nice car. No. Posh restaurants. No.

It's so we can go a couple of holidays a year, pay off some of our mortage, save a wee bit of cash. My wife likes working, she doesn't want to be a full time mum - she works part time, gets satisfaction from that and still gets to see the kids plenty.

Every one is entitled to make their own choices, and it's easy to critisise others when you're not in that situation.

I'm not talking about working Mam's - I'm talking about paying a grand a month for a nursery.

Most people I know dont even come out with a grand a month, so there's no way I'm buying this "that's what you pay for a good nursery" sh1te.


Ooooooh - all the defensive parents are out. Guilt much?!

[snaw]

What opportunituies is your kid gettign at nurser6y like? Access to the best crayons available?

Pro's and cons.

I notice with friends kids who don't go to nursery they're less socially developed, usually a bit more timid - but sometimes a bit too selfish (All kids are to some degree, sometimes though it can get a bit much).

Some nursery kids can be a bit more aggro, maybe because they have to be.

They might even learn to spell and type properly

End of the day it's personal choice, there are studies done that counter the common myth that nurseries are bad, full time mums are good. It's more to do with the quality of the environment they grow up in, than who's with them x.y.z of the time.

But clearly you know a lot about this, having read loads and having kids of your own ...