Is she the one?

[Xenophon]

You're probably never going to meet anyone better - and if you do, just leave her?

SA at her best.

[aussielong]

No, it's more than that it's aching for someone and worry about them and knowing you will love them nomatter what.

I'm not sure what you mean by 'emotionally self sustaining', if you mean she is needy, then talk to her about it. Be as honest as humanly possible, get it all out in the open, you might fall more in love with her or you might realise you aren't meant to be together.

i mean i dont need to unload my feelings on anyone to feel ok, i mean i have got to as point where i think i have accepted that i will die alone, and i do not really need anyone to make me feel good. a partner would be great - but i dont really *need* one like i thought i did in my 20's.

[DimPrawn]

If you think about it, the only way you know if a woman "is the one" (very Matrix), is to find out that the next woman is not as good. If the next woman is better, all that happens is you wonder if she "is the one", and so it goes on.

Best to think of woman as fun and not get too heavy in life.

[realityhack]

Back to my earlier post - seriously aussielong, you're confusing the issue - and don't listen to the 'second best' crowd. It's quite simple really.

Do you actually love her? It's very easy to say, especially in a nice, comfortable relationship, but do you know from the bottom of your heart that you love her? Seriously? Can you say you really know what love is? Would you lay down your life for her?

It's a mistake to think of how you'd feel if you parted as a barometer - I've ended many a relationship and felt gutted, only to realise that, in the long run, it was for the best.

If you do love her, it's very simple. If she feels the same way, it's simple and an excellent idea, get married. If your instincts are giving you warning signals, listen to them.

If you're not sure you love her, you probably don't. It is a BAD idea to marry someone you don't love, obviously, and 'great norks' and all that physical stuff won't carry the relationship for very long.

Ultimatums aren't what you need, but I can appreciate why she's giving them to you. However, you need to ask her to back off while you do some soul searching, and communicate openly and honestly with her. Pressured commitments of this brevity? Not a good idea.

[Lucy]

i mean i dont need to unload my feelings on anyone to feel ok, i mean i have got to as point where i think i have accepted that i will die alone, and i do not really need anyone to make me feel good. a partner would be great - but i dont really *need* one like i thought i did in my 20's.

Again, talk to her about that, 'when you unload your feelings on me, I feel ...' talk about it, find out who she is, for real.

And don't kid yourself, we all die alone, one way or another.

[Marina]

..Shall I post your dating page? ..

Yes please! (This should be good)

[NickFitz]

Yes please! (This should be good)

WSS

[Xenophon]

And don't kid yourself, we all die alone, one way or another.

Ooh look, flowers! Pretty pretty.

Cheer up.

[realityhack]

Only post the page if you're prepared for bp to post the contents of every pm Lucy... not good karma at all.

[aussielong]

Hi AussieLong.


Yes you should marry her.


My reasoning is this: -

You may be more confident and rich than ever before, but let's be honest...you're not an attractive man are you?

If you were, you'd already be off sh*gging some young bit of stuff.

You clearly dont *truly* love your lass (else you would have already proposed in a wuv-ey duv-ey manor!), so I'm guessing the things that are keeping you with her are: -

- she's nice enough
- you're confortable enough
- you're happy enough
- your life's nice enough

This is good enough I reckon - dont you?

You're probably never going to meet anyone better - and if you do, just leave her?

Nothings ever set in stone - better to just make your lass happy, keep the grief from your door, and just concentrate on the good points (stag do, big party day, bling suit/shoes/cufflinks, very posh honeymoon etc etc)



This thread really reminds me of that Alan Partridge line "I love you...in a way"

No, i'm good looking. A women gave me her number in an RSL club a few weeks ago. I was eating my tucker and i looked up and she was mouthing her number at me. I shrugged and shortly after she left the bloke she was with (turns out, her friend) and came over and gave me her number. She said i made her laugh with a comment i made at the counter. She was fit as a F. I still have her number. I bought a second Sim card so i could phone her without my missus finding out. we exchanged texts but i did not pursue it. I have the sim card in my CDs. i've stashed it in a cassette case.

Don't get me wrong, my missus is a stunner. little italian sex bomb. thing is, its all about play. i've played myself in and i think i can play myself further.