I think my girlfriend might propose tonight...

[Diver]

Strewth...

[TheFaQQer]

More recently she's been saying "Did you know that February 29th is the only day of the year that a girl can ask a man for marriage?"

I trust you pointed out that she's wrong?

According to tradition, a girl can ask a man to marry him on any day during a leap year, but it's usual for it to be done on February 29th.

So only another 10 months to hide from her, which could ensure that she doesn't ask you.

If you're that fussed, you may as well just chuck her.

[TheFaQQer]

It's putting off the inevitable and you'll get nagged until you do. Fer God's sake man get some balls and either marry the girl or tell her you're not going to or just not at the moment. Do you really think a bunch of autistic IT geek virgins are going to help you sort this this out?

WHS

Very dangerous... as you as there's a ring on her finger she'll be nagging and nagging for a wedding. After all, she'll say, if you plan to marry, why put it off?

Disagree - it's about setting expectations. We brought the wedding forward slightly from the original plan - married after 4 years of engagement rather than 5.

Not me - I was engaged for 5 years before we finally made it down the aisle...

And we all know how successful that turned out

Why not try the "but things are so great the way they are, I don't want to change anything" line.

Because you may as well just say "you're really not marriage material" - if you're going to say "no" then at least have the stones to say it.

After 18 years, why bother?

Tax allowances, plus formal recognition of being next-of-kin in the event of needing to make hospital type decisions.

Look just be honest with her, that you're not quite ready.

Otherwise you create a whole lot of trouble for yourself.

WHS

I like to keep a handbasket close by at all times just to deal with that very question.

I think you're safe, mate.

We wait with baited breath.

Beer saturated

bated

[Diver]

WHS



Disagree - it's about setting expectations. We brought the wedding forward slightly from the original plan - married after 4 years of engagement rather than 5.



And we all know how successful that turned out



Because you may as well just say "you're really not marriage material" - if you're going to say "no" then at least have the stones to say it.



Tax allowances, plus formal recognition of being next-of-kin in the event of needing to make hospital type decisions.



WHS



I think you're safe, mate.



bated

pedant

[sli_gryn]

c'mon man! what happened?!?!

[MrRobin]

Well, she didn't propose.

The next day she told me she was going to do it and I acted surprised and asked why she didn't in the end. She said she was feeling down that day and didn't want any possibility of being rejected etc etc. She asked if I would have said yes and I said "well you'll never know now!"

The conversation then briefly turned back into the tried and tested "how long do I have to wait? / when are you going to ask me?" etc before we started talking about more important stuff like what was for dinner.

[shaunbhoy]

Well, she didn't propose.

The next day she told me she was going to do it and I acted surprised and asked why she didn't in the end. She said she was feeling down that day and didn't want any possibility of being rejected etc etc. She asked if I would have said yes and I said "well you'll never know now!"

The conversation then briefly turned back into the tried and tested "how long do I have to wait? / when are you going to ask me?" etc before we started talking about more important stuff like what was for dinner.

Just tell her you are an old-fashioned traditional kind of a guy that does not go along with the concept of it ever being the woman's place to propose to the man. That way you can either ask her at a time that suits you, or not at all if you prefer.

HTH

[sasguru]

Just tell her you are an old-fashioned traditional kind of a guy that does not go along with the concept of it ever being the woman's place to propose to the man. That way you can either ask her at a time that suits you, or not at all if you prefer.

HTH

Or give her a Pearl Necklace like lilelvis does:

http://forums.contractoruk.com/gener...cost-life.html

[Platypus]

Well, she didn't propose.

Well, you got off lightly. Last night I bumped into a couple who *had* become engaged on Friday 29th. She looked He looked