Wedding costs

[Moscow Mule]

Mine is going to end up costing between £15k and £20k (100 folk for wedding and breakfast, another 100 in the evening).

Have hired a restuarant for the whole day - they wanted 10k minimum spend - should be a piece of piss the amount my family drinks.

To be honest, if it's reasonable I don't mind paying.

[Dow Jones]

Pardon?

Correct me if I am wrong, shouldn't the bride's father pay for everything? (mine did!)
This is a small token of the bride's family showing their gratitude for choosing and making an honest woman out of her.
Enjoy it while it lasts. All honeymoons come to an end sooner rather than later.

[r0bly0ns]

To be honest, if it's reasonable I don't mind paying.

Agreed, I would have spent much more had I not been a poorly paid permie at the time.

Correct me if I am wrong, shouldn't the bride's father pay for everything? (mine did!)
This is a small token of the bride's family showing their gratitude for choosing and making an honest woman out of her.

Unfortunately, most people live in the real world where they are not marrying someone who's daddy owns half of Wiltshire.

[SizeZero]

Try bringing home the 'Weddings in Paradise' brochures and leaving them inside her bridal magazines.

Might cost the same, but you wouldn't have to put up with half the headaches or the stream of relatives neither of you realised you had.

A water cottage in the Maldives for a fortnight, or a few hours of chaos/etiquette/bossy photographers. You know it makes sense.

[Dow Jones]

I like subtle humour

Close enough - bit more south - Devon

[Pondlife]

Thanks to all who've posted. Seems like a pretty mixed spread.

Wedding will be in Sri Lanka as you can't get married in Maldives if not a resident AFAIK. Honeymoon in Maldives though.

May do both in Sechelles/Mauritius if costs get too silly.

Will be having a 'reception' when we get back and this is the cost I'm trying to control.

Edit: If it wasn't obvious all will be funded through this years' divvies

[cailin maith]

Thanks to all who've posted. Seems like a pretty mixed spread.

Wedding will be in Sri Lanka as you can't get married in Maldives if not a resident AFAIK. Honeymoon in Maldives though.

May do both in Sechelles/Mauritius if costs get too silly.

Will be having a 'reception' when we get back and this is the cost I'm trying to control.

I had my honeymoon in Sri Lanka and the Maldives.... it was fabbo!! You'll have a great time.

[KathyWoolfe]

I'll probably be getting the cheapest wedding of the lot - and it's not because I'm getting married to a Scot.

Getting a Registry Office ceremony, with only immediate family coming to it - about 7 people excluding me and him. Probably a stand-up buffet at a hotel somewhere and I'll be lucky to get a honeymoon. I'll end up paying for it as my father is no longer with us and my fiancee is unemployed at the moment!

I'll be lucky if it doesn't exceed a couple of hundred pounds.

[Lockhouse]

Poll to follow (wait for it....)

So, how much inc the honeymoon should I be forking out for her 'happiest day' ?

Some of the bridal magazines she's got are just ridiculous, I mean +£35K FFS

Brillo, yes yes, your opinion is duly noted and will be taken into consideration.

We eloped to Italy and got married on our own. We got married in the centre of Florence at the Palazzo Vecchio. We had two Italian witnesses we'd never met before, a photographer, a Rolls Royce, an interpreter and that was it. Fantastic honeymoon followed in Tuscany. Highly recommended especially if there are ex's, kids, in-laws, ex's-in-laws etc all wanting to stick their oar in. We had a dinner party hosted in a hotel when we got back for the people that mattered.

[Ruprect]

Will be having a 'reception' when we get back and this is the cost I'm trying to control.

out of interest, would you expect your guests to give you gifts at this? not sure what the form is there...