Another what would you do ?

[youwhut]

If it was my daughter I'd want to know.

If you don't know then it is your own fault.

[Churchill]

If you don't know then it is your own fault.

To a certain extent.

When you're old enough to have children, you'll realise that they can be manipulative, devious, twisted and evil bastards.

[youwhut]

Those are the things I wouldn't want to know.

I am old enough to have children - I just haven't chosen that path yet.

[BlasterBates]

repercussions.

Well her daughter wants out (I can understand, a friend stoned or drunk isn't much of a friend, unless you're stoned and drunk as well) so it might be a positive thing don't you think so. The only reason she hasn't dumped her friend is guilt.

[NotAllThere]

I had a mate while at school who got into smoking pot. It killed what had been, until then, quite a good friendship. He got so boring. He'd never come to the pub to get pissed...

[Moscow Mule]

The 'kool rites of passage' set on here should try telling Leah Betts' parents that teenagers taking E at a rave is just a harmless bit of fun, and it wasn't even a Class A drug at the time.

Leah Betts died because she was scared of her parent's reaction to her drug use and mis-information (drinking water will sort you out).

It's completely the right example to use here, but to argue for reasoned dialogue with a child about drugs not a puritanical "cut off all contact" approach as was suggested in the original post.

[BlasterBates]

Leah Betts died because she was scared of her parent's reaction to her drug use and mis-information (drinking water will sort you out).

It's completely the right example to use here, but to argue for reasoned dialogue with a child about drugs not a puritanical "cut off all contact" approach as was suggested in the original post.

Just to point out it is the daughter that wants to cut off the friendship, not Sandy demanding her daughter cut off all contact. Her daughter is confusd because she doesn't like what is happening. Maybe she's overreacting but then again it is quite possible that this friend of her doesn't sniff Cocaine wait ten minutes and then go home to sleep off "the world sucks" feeling, but sniffs all evening, and then the following day throws temper tantrums the whole time.

[ASB]

To a certain extent.

When you're old enough to have children, you'll realise that they can be manipulative, devious, twisted and evil bastards.

So it's not just mine then.

My 14 year old daughter is in fairly regular contact with drug use/abuse (only ever weed as far as I'm aware) in her grammer school. We've tried to explain the consequences, some of the risks. We don't try and ban her from the company of those involved, that would just be a red rag to her. Equally she doesn't want to run a mile. Have tried to explain the unfortunate syndrome of guilt by association though. Ultimately she has to make her own choices - even though they are likely flawed in some ways. Hopefully she will show good judgement and she does generally have the confidence to discuss it.

I can't say I'm happy with it. Neither can my wife who ends up expelling those who get caught (and these are nearly always the users - although not knowing the ratio of pushers to users it's difficult to be sure). On average lack of access to education probably screws them up more than the drugs though.

[SandyDown]

Thank you all for sharing your opinions and experiences, we all have grown and lived in different environment, brought up with different family values and have been exposed to different life experiences. Hence I appreciate all your opinions.

Btw: I have sorted our action with my daughter already, so thanks.

[NotAllThere]

Btw: I have sorted our action with my daughter already, so thanks.

If I was to ask "Saudi Arabian approach?" purely for the sake of satirical humour, would it be taken as a personal attack?

If so, I won't say it.