Update on b)

[Money Money Money]

Correct.

Here's my 2 pence for what its worth.

Why not go away for the weekend, just you 2 without the kids. Have a nice meal together and a good chat?

Start by telling her you have been thinking a lot about what she said and need to know if she meant it. Then just be honest with her. She may have said it to provoke a reaction from you, she may have said it because she wants to know your feelings. On the other side of the coin you may have fallen out of love with her because of what she had said.

Communication is the key here I think.

You'll feel so much better when you have spoken to her. I would also forget about b) and not mention it!

Good luck.

[WindyAnna]

You've GOT to sort it one way or the other. It's not fair on yourself, your wife or your kids.

If what you are saying is that if b) has reciprocated you would have left a) and yet because b) didn't reciprocate you are going to stay put then I think that you are being a coward (although I didn't before!!).

You can't wait for a nice escape route to appear before you sort your life out!!! you will feel better for it in the long run.

[TheFaQQer]

You either really make a go of it at home (kids can tell the difference, you know) or you make the brake.

Anything is better than a half-life...

Be brave, you've done it once, you can do it again.

xx.

break

[cojak]

Here's my 2 pence for what its worth.

Why not go away for the weekend, just you 2 without the kids. Have a nice meal together and a good chat?

Start by telling her you have been thinking a lot about what she said and need to know if she meant it. Then just be honest with her. She may have said it to provoke a reaction from you, she may have said it because she wants to know your feelings. On the other side of the coin you may have fallen out of love with her because of what she had said.

Communication is the key here I think.

You'll feel so much better when you have spoken to her. I would also forget about b) and not mention it!

Good luck.

Yep - good one.

That's the next step.

[DBA_bloke]

Here's my 2 pence for what its worth.

... er, 2 pence.

[Money Money Money]

... er, 2 pence.

Tax, VAT, Inflation???

[DBA_bloke]

Tax, VAT, Inflation???

Quite. Best to invest it in a decent High/Medium/Low risk portfolio, or maybe take a gamble on house prices climbing in the medium term.