Update on b)

[SallyAnne]

Right. Update time. For those who are interested.

b) told me I need to move on, and was worried I was getting mixed messages from her.



So that's that I guess. Next.

Ah I'm really sorry to hear that

But - telling her was still the best thng you ever did. You can now stop with the distracting thoughts, and concentrate on either fixing or getting out of your married mate.

One way or the other, you're life will get better from here on in.

And I still think you're the bravest bloke I know.

[WindyAnna]

Hey Moose, I feel for you.

But ... are you going to sort out a) nonetheless???

Windy

[Moose423956]

Hey Moose, I feel for you.

But ... are you going to sort out a) nonetheless???

Windy

It took me 6 years to pluck up courage to tell someone that I love her. How long do you think it will take to tell someone that I don't love her?

[chef]

and you don't think it's fixable? even now you've got no distractions or "what if's" on your mind?

[chasingtheaurora]

It took me 6 years to pluck up courage to tell someone that I love her. How long do you think it will take to tell someone that I don't love her?

Have you thought of Relate or the like?

[TheFaQQer]

Right. Update time. For those who are interested.

b) told me I need to move on, and was worried I was getting mixed messages from her.



So that's that I guess. Next.

Oh dear.

At least you took a chance and know where you stand with (b) - which means that you can mow move on to something. I guess the big question is what does "Next" mean.

Does the response from (b) in any way alter your feelings for (a)? However you're feeling now, it sounds to me like you need to focus on sorting your marriage out one way or the other. From your last topic on this, you said that your wife had said that she no longer loved you - now it's time to find out how serious she was, and how serious you are about not being in love with her. If neither of you wants to be together, then it's time to make a clean break of it.

You never know - once you've sorted out (a), (b) may view you as a more viable prospect. She could well be thinking that she doesn't want to break up your marriage, particularly when there are children involved. If there is no marriage to break up, then she may feel completely differently. I wouldn't bank on this outcome, but for the sake of your own sanity and feelings, and those particularly of your children, you need to sort out home really.

Best of luck with whatever happens.

[TheFaQQer]

It took me 6 years to pluck up courage to tell someone that I love her. How long do you think it will take to tell someone that I don't love her?

PM me her email address - I'll do it for you.

Or her MSN details.

[TheFaQQer]

Have you thought of Relate or the like?

IIRC, Moose said that he'd tried that, got all the blame, and would never go again.

Something like that.

[Moose423956]

IIRC, Moose said that he'd tried that, got all the blame, and would never go again.

Something like that.

Correct.

[cojak]

You either really make a go of it at home (kids can tell the difference, you know) or you make the brake.

Anything is better than a half-life...

Be brave, you've done it once, you can do it again.

xx.