Inheritance squabbles.

[BlueSharp]

With regards to the original query about the estate being left to a trust it needs to be specified in the will that needs to happen, the will then becomes the deed document to set up the trust.

I'm not going to go into the details on a public forum about the levels of pettiness and accusations that have been banded because of the passing of my FIL but it's suffice to say it got to the point where the police have had to get involved due to malicious and false accusations made to them!

[northernladuk]

That's just the point - she wants to leave 100% for her daughter but feels my dad should have been sorting out the rest of the family including a relative from my grandads side of the family who has only just appeared on the scene.

My father has done exactly the same thing she has always planned to do.

Sounds like it's a timing thing. If your dad had spread it around (ignoring the new member for the moment) then maybe the aunt won't have gone down the 100% route? If she's found out her brother left everything to his sons then why shouldn't see leave 100% to her daughter. The domino affect rather than everyone thinking rationally.

[TheDude]

Sounds like it's a timing thing. If your dad had spread it around (ignoring the new member for the moment) then maybe the aunt won't have gone down the 100% route? If she's found out her brother left everything to his sons then why shouldn't see leave 100% to her daughter. The domino affect rather than everyone thinking rationally.

The point is my fathers wishes are none of his siblings or relatives business but they are sniffing around and asking about amendments to the will.

They may feel they are due - my father didn't.

[northernladuk]

The point is my fathers wishes are none of his siblings or relatives business but they are sniffing around and asking about amendments to the will.

They may feel they are due - my father didn't.

For sure. Just seems different to the experiences I've had where brothers and sisters get something even if it's a token. But that said there have been no feuds or fall outs with the sibilings so comes down to levels of interaction between siblings in each case I guess.

Can't help thinking if my sister completely cut me out after helping her all these years I'd be irked for sure. No way would I chase for anything as I'm comfortable but not being considered could be a bit of a kick in the teeth.

[b0redom]

I think you're probably the exception rather than the rule. If I shuffle off before my sister, I will be leaving everything to my kids and I suspect the same the other way. Unless you're a multi-millionaire and your siblings are paupers why would you be looking after them over your kids?

[jamesbrown]

Having expectations about inheriting stuff is weird.

[northernladuk]

I think you're probably the exception rather than the rule. If I shuffle off before my sister, I will be leaving everything to my kids and I suspect the same the other way. Unless you're a multi-millionaire and your siblings are paupers why would you be looking after them over your kids?

Which is a very good point and probably the bottom line.

Having a very small family coming from a couple of generations of mostly one child families this isn't something that really that factors in my situation. That and everyone was penniless anyway. So yeah, more than likely not got a very good grasp of situations like this.

[WTFH]

Having expectations about inheriting stuff is weird.

Yup.
That goes for offspring or more distant relatives.
If my father leaves me anything, he leaves me something.
If he gives it all to my sister, he gives it all to her.
If he gives it away to others, he gives it away.
If someone comes to me after the event to argue one way or another, I will tell them to take it up with him!
His estate, his choice.

[ladymuck]

I think issues arise where there is poor communication. Our family have always been up front about arrangements which, to outsiders, might seem a bit heartless. However, knowing everyone's wishes and where we all stand makes everything so much simpler.

[TheDude]

I think issues arise where there is poor communication. Our family have always been up front about arrangements which, to outsiders, might seem a bit heartless. However, knowing everyone's wishes and where we all stand makes everything so much simpler.

Quote possibly however my Aunt would be very upset if people started leaning on her daughter for money once the estate passes to her.