Sexual Harassment

[Whorty]

I agree about the humour aspect. It's just so difficult to know what's acceptable humour and what's not. My personal taste is sarcastic, dark, gallows style (thanks Dad!) but I know that doesn't sit well with many people, some of whom are friends despite their lack of a SoH (joke!).

So the YouTube clip we should all know is from a show that puts a comedic twist on many serious topics. I think it helps to use humour as long as it's not misconstrued as disrespectful or making light of something.

In person, people can generally tell if an attempt at humour is being made vs intent to offend. It's a lot harder to make that clear here on mumsnet2.

[Whorty]

It wasn't so difficult to assertain before the latest crop of fannies (physical and metaphorical) joined the forum.

In modern society, attacking a specific person that can be construed as <fill in gap>bic/ist is generally not accepted these days unless you know the person well and they know you are joking (rather than being <fill in gap>bic/ist but trying to hide behind a joke)

On here I think most people are ok having the P taken out of them, but even so, being 'creepy', or a little 'ist or 'bic will still offend.

General broad brush jokes at the expense of a group is usually fine I would think.

So, for e.g. joking that the dutch must have sore feet due to their wooden footware is fine, but accusing someone on here of being connected to a genocide carried out by their home country historically is probably not great. As that just feels xenophobic

I'm a great believer that you shouldn't say on here what you would not be prepared to say to someone's face if you met them down the pub. Think, if you have to justify it by saying, but hey, if they kick off I'm 6'2" and 200 pounds so can look after myself, then you probably know what you're saying is going to offend so maybe you shouldn't be saying it.

I know, I know ... I'm a twunt ... I'll get my coat now

[Whorty]

Behold an example of the latter, desperate to be accepted, yet easily proven to be a humourless buffoon.

[Zigenare]

In modern society, attacking a specific person that can be construed as <fill in gap>bic/ist is generally not accepted these days unless you know the person well and they know you are joking (rather than being <fill in gap>bic/ist but trying to hide behind a joke)

On here I think most people are ok having the P taken out of them, but even so, being 'creepy', or a little 'ist or 'bic will still offend.

General broad brush jokes at the expense of a group is usually fine I would think.

So, for e.g. joking that the dutch must have sore feet due to their wooden footware is fine, but accusing someone on here of being connected to a genocide carried out by their home country historically is probably not great. As that just feels xenophobic

I'm a great believer that you shouldn't say on here what you would not be prepared to say to someone's face if you met them down the pub. Think, if you have to justify it by saying, but hey, if they kick off I'm 6'2" and 200 pounds so can look after myself, then you probably know what you're saying is going to offend so maybe you shouldn't be saying it.

I know, I know ... I'm a twunt ... I'll get my coat now

You're a shortarse. I'm half a foot taller than you and that's without my stiletos - leave your billy-big-bollocks persona at home mate, you're not impressing anyone.

[Jog On]

This one is a bit of a minefield. I had a recent experience where I asked someone at work out for a coffee. She said yes, then flaked. Then when I next saw her she mentioned that we were still due to go out - then flaked again - then did the same thing again for a 3rd time...

I think I am supposed to persist but at the same time I don't want to 'chase' her. Either that or she's just stringing me along for validation. Either way, I enjoy talking to her and all the other women in the office.

I love women... a lot... Being able to express that in a direct, matter of fact, non-creepy, non-threatening way without any need to do something about it is something I aspire to do to more of. Kind of like walking through a flower garden and appreciating the flowers without needing to pick any of them and 'have' them.

IMO being creepy is an inability to directly communicate your intentions and pretend you're not interested when it's obvious you are. Trying to get something through some form of trickery and deception or some kind of ' transaction'.

Work is a tricky one as is any situation where the attractive women want to be noticed but not hit on.

[DoctorStrangelove]

Nothing wrong with the occasional test flight my old friend.

Btw, Bazza says Hi!

to Bazza.

Hope the string vests are holding up well.

[mb31]

Work is a tricky one as is any situation where the attractive women want to be noticed but not hit on.

Jog on, the solution is to wait for the attractive women to hit on you.

Step 1) Let her know that you're a little bit crazy by confronting the office alphas over something trivial.
Step 2) Use your charm and wit to make her laugh.
Step 3) Show her that you also have a serious and sensitive side
Step 4) Appear unobtainable


I'm still waiting for LM to PM me...

[BrilloPad]

You're a shortarse. I'm half a foot taller than you and that's without my stiletos - leave your billy-big-bollocks persona at home mate, you're not impressing anyone.

Hey Whorty. Ziggy is lying. I have met him and you can kick his arse easily - Wilmslow kicked sand in his face once. Just turn up Friday night next week and sort him out.

[BrilloPad]

Jog on, the solution is to wait for the attractive women to hit on you.

Step 1) Let her know that you're a little bit crazy by confronting the office alphas over something trivial.
Step 2) Use your charm and wit to make her laugh.
Step 3) Show her that you also have a serious and sensitive side
Step 4) Appear unobtainable


I'm still waiting for LM to PM me...

LM promises much but rarely delivers. For instance, organizing of CUK meet-ups....

[LondonManc]

Jog on, the solution is to wait for the attractive women to hit on you.

Step 1) Just sit there and lick your own earlobes. She'll be over soon enough.

I'm still waiting for LM to PM me...

FTFY.

P.S. Keep waiting ducky.