Experience of divorce?

[Troll]

TROLL

"Quote:
More people start divorce proceedings in early January than any other point of the year, research suggests.
A new website focused on the breakdown of relationships interviewed over 100 divorce law firms.

It found rates of divorce proceedings in early January can be 50% higher than at any other time of the year - with Christmas stress partly to blame.

Insidedivorce.com's survey interviewed more than 2,000 people, with 30% citing infidelity as the cause of divorce.


http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/6239855.stm


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One in 10 married couples admit they have no sex at all, with men in particular citing lack of sex as a key cause of problems. "

Does Troll copy and paste for a living ?

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[Bagpuss]

I guess I've been out of school too long to say "look in the mirror"

It's a knob, a dick head, a tool, a tit, a general all round tosser.

HTH.

Never heard it before, what with all the Americanisms on this board I feel like a stranger in my own land.

[BrilloPad]

Someone I know is convinced that her man is cheating - she's seen a diary and he is giving the obvious signals such as secrecy on emails/phones and out working late etc. In all fairness their marriage broke down months ago anyway.

Would she need to prove adultery and would this gain her any advantage in the eventual split-up?

1. there is no advantage in where fault lies - the woman will get 50% of the money if no kids and most of it if there are kids
2. you can always get a divorce if you wait 5 years. But you have to be living apart(or in the house seperately). I think its 2 years if both sides agree but don't give a reason and can be done quicker if both sides agree and reason given.

I seperated in December 2002, Nisi in Mar 2003 and absolute in May 2003.

Andy

[SandyDown]

1. there is no advantage in where fault lies - the woman will get 50% of the money if no kids and most of it if there are kids
2. you can always get a divorce if you wait 5 years. But you have to be living apart(or in the house seperately). I think its 2 years if both sides agree but don't give a reason and can be done quicker if both sides agree and reason given.

I seperated in December 2002, Nisi in Mar 2003 and absolute in May 2003.

Andy

Andy ..what was the reason you gave

[BrilloPad]

Andy ..what was the reason you gave

her unreasonable behaviour - I think there were 10 points. I think lack of sex was among them - it certainly is a reasonable reason for divorce. After all its why you get married. What there seems to be no definition of (in law) is what is a reasonable amount! There was also her being nasty to my family.

Her solicitors were useless and so did not defend the points I made which I was very pleased about.

Most solicitors can usually come up with something if both sides agree - and as I said if 1 side does not agree, all they can do is delay.

Andy

[SandyDown]

her unreasonable behaviour - I think there were 10 points. I think lack of sex was among them - it certainly is a reasonable reason for divorce. After all its why you get married. What there seems to be no definition of (in law) is what is a reasonable amount! There was also her being nasty to my family.

Her solicitors were useless and so did not defend the points I made which I was very pleased about.

Most solicitors can usually come up with something if both sides agree - and as I said if 1 side does not agree, all they can do is delay.

Andy

You can't blame your wife for not having sex with you if you started to skip showers, never washed your dick, and fart under the duvet. Jeeeees!!

[jeremytaxman]

the woman will get 50% of the money if no kids and most of it if there are kids

Why would she get more if there are kids. I thought kids were dealt with separately as maintenance payments defined by the CSA as a percentage of net income ?

[SandyDown]

Why would she get more if there are kids. I thought kids were dealt with separately as maintenance payments defined by the CSA as a percentage of net income ?

OK the guy has to pay for the kids, but he can't just give a 2 yer old the cash... hence he has to pay the money to the ex-wife ..I think

[BrilloPad]

You can't blame your wife for not having sex with you if you started to skip showers, never washed your dick, and fart under the duvet. Jeeeees!!

lol - is that all one has to do to get sex?

I bath every day (including my dick) and rarely farted in front of my ex (or my current girlfriend). In fact my ex farted alot more than me.

When my twins were born she told me that I might not be their father. And there were 2 potential other fathers! I asked the hospital for a paternity test - they spoke to her and asked if I had been hitting her! She said to me "I am telling them the truth for now - but if you don't do what I say I will agree with them".

[BrilloPad]

Why would she get more if there are kids. I thought kids were dealt with separately as maintenance payments defined by the CSA as a percentage of net income ?

The courts still give more capital if there are kids. around 65%-85%. And the court will give more spousal maintenance! Child maintenance can be dealt with by court if man is stupid enough to agree - woman can still get full wack from CSA on top!

I gave 65% capital to my ex as she said she wanted to look after the kids. Leaving me enough for a 1 bed flat. Then she decided she wanted to work - so I now have the kids 4 days per week. I now paid my ex 66%(I can't get any back) and I give her spousal maintenance, I pay a mortgague so I have a 3 bed place and I pay my girlfriend to lookj after the kids. My ex lives in luxury while I struggle.

But at least I see the kids. I would pay any amount of money for that. But why does the money always follow the woman? why not the kids?