Reply to: Victimisation at work.

[Doggy Styles]

Good grief, Malc!

[Malcolm Buggeridge]

Then I realised she had a lovely pair of tits, so I started being extra nice to her, which got her off my back at least. She even came over and joined me for lunch yesterday.

Wasn't this delectable young lady was it DS?

(Ever so slightly NSFW)

[IR35FanClub]

If this is not your lads planned carrer path - then just treat it as a temp job and get out there. That's what I've always done (when I was younger).

However, stick the knife in her and give it a good twist on the way out of the door. I've helped friends & family write cataclysmic mails a few times over my life. Specifically in this type of situation. The thing is a) you need your son to be on the internal email system to cc: whoever he needs (not the whole company! LOL) b) don't get abusive, just list the facts from your side. If he can't do that - then he needs to memo to her superiors and peers and subordinates.

Actually when I say don't get abusive - that doesn' mean you can't make the humouros and belittling. As that is what I'd call the revenge factor. Just keep the language so that it sound like the writing of a sane and educated person who is using reasonable logic to explain their actions.

Your son then gets to resign with dignity and if she ever tries it again everyone in the company will remember her history. Just don't let him walk away quietly.

[vetran]

Agree its time to involve HR, the ex manager may still be available and suggest a strategy informally.
Area manager is a good call.

She must have been doing this before, these people normally have history. HR will know and may have moved her for this reason, whilst they won't tell you if you mention it they may take action.

I would be nervous about going down the time off for stress route so young. It's difficult enough to get a job now without adding potential barriers.

Key thing is to do something now and if possible get even without being unprofessional.

assuming your son isn't supporting a family he has an opportunity to take some employment chances. Get to HR make an official complaint with suitable evidence and also go get another job. If you have a complaint in one hand and a new job in the other most companies will be unnerved.

[psychocandy]

1. Go to doctor, and say stress due to work.
2. Go to HR and say now on medication for stress do to work place harassment.
3. Chill, take some time off work and enjoy.

2nd that. If you're off work due to stress, employer will crap themselves and wont upset you for fear of making you worse/ you suing them. **** them.

I had it many years ago in permie job. Not same as OP son but team leader was a tit, who got worse when he realised I was same grade as him. Tried all sorts, official complaints about me etc. It was obvious. He even

In the end I though sod this, took 4 months or so off on full pay. When I went back they moved me different team without even asking.

[Doggy Styles]

What was wrong with your eyes before that point or was she covering herself up?

I ask myself the same question.

[oscarose]

Not so long ago, he was won an award with his company for an outstanding year. But then his management team moved on and a new manager (female) came in.

Within 3 months of her taking over (its her first managerial position in this country), she's doing everything she can to destroy his career with disciplinary cases here, there and everywhere. Even his deputy manager has said the treatment is appalling but does nothing to help.

Nothing new here. That's what I'd expect from some jumped up minge.

[GreenLabel]

(1) because I don't think anyone should get away with anything

Totally. A good enough reason on its own.

[Liamxtype]

Speak to ACAS.

+1

[Spacecadet]

I used to have trouble with a woman at work being nasty to a few people, including me.

Then I realised she had a lovely pair of tits, so I started being extra nice to her, which got her off my back at least. She even came over and joined me for lunch yesterday.

What was wrong with your eyes before that point or was she covering herself up?

[KentPhilip]

Anyway, being bullied causes depression - that makes it difficult to do anything about it and affects your home life. I saw an interesting TED talk about how to deal with problems and it turns out that talking about them doesn't help you deal with the psychological stress - writing them down does, so my advice would be to keep a diary.

+1 Couldn't agree more. Writing the tulip down helps prevent depression when you're under attack because it stops the brain ruminating on the problems as much, the reason being that it doesn't want to risk forgetting the detail of the problem.
Rumination leads to depression.

To the OP's child: Get applying for other jobs intensively, for a higher rate of pay, and once you get one get out of the current job as soon as possible. Don't give them any notice at all, just get out of there.
Forget unions, compensation or justice, they are of no use to the young.

[Doggy Styles]

I used to have trouble with a woman at work being nasty to a few people, including me.

Then I realised she had a lovely pair of tits, so I started being extra nice to her, which got her off my back at least. She even came over and joined me for lunch yesterday.

[SupremeSpod]

my only doubt after reading this is BB does not live up to his name sake

Milan.

Do you live up to yours?

[MaryPoppins]

Sorry Mrs BolshieBastard.

No problems, Mr Kn0bjockey.

[milanbenes]

my only doubt after reading this is BB does not live up to his name sake

Milan.