Reply to: Pregnancy 40+

[TykeMerc]

She's had 3 c-sections, so unsurprisingly I'm losing the argument on this one.

Heard some nasty rumours/stories about swelling testicles.

I had no symptoms of note, drove home from the op which was done under local, I don't recall what the op cost but 95% sure it was sub £200.
Op on Friday morning, back at work Monday quite comfortably apart from the odd twinge. The stitches from a minor op I had this Tuesday have given me more gyp and discomfort than the vasectomy gave me and that didn't even need a stitch.

[TimberWolf]

When I'm 55, my kids will be 27, 29 and 33.

When your son is aged your year of birth (YY), you will be aged his year of birth (YY). Plus 100 if he was born this century, so good luck achieving that.

[NotAllThere]

She's had 3 c-sections, so I'm not unsurprisingly losing the argument on this one.

Heard some nasty rumours/stories about swelling testicles.

It does happen sometimes, I'm sure. Especially if you use a clinic like this. http://www.users.bigpond.net.au/simatt/vasectomy.jpg ( reasonable sfw, but might make your eyes water ).

[moorfield]

Tell her to have it done then.

She's had 3 c-sections, so unsurprisingly I'm losing the argument on this one.

Heard some nasty rumours/stories about swelling testicles.

[NotAllThere]

WHS. Fast forward 18yrs, when you/your missus is 60 you'll still be funding the offspring through university. When I'm 55 my youngest will have just left and I'll be taking my 25% tax free pension.

Talking of the snip, who's had one then? (Missus M is currently harping on at me about this).

Had mine at 31. After three kids. Seemed a lot safer than missus having her tubes tied. Had it done on a Friday at a private clinic for about £200 total. Couple of beers after the op, which went well with the happy pills they gave me. (Wife driving) Spent the weekend on intimate terms with packets of frozen peas. Went to work on Monday (60 mile commute), everything fine until I got to the client site and remembered... the ramps... over them oh-so-slowly. Was walking around work a little like Clint Eastwood for a day. Otherwise no problems and no regrets.

I've friend ten years older than me, who's kids are 2 and 5.

When I'm 55, my kids will be 27, 29 and 33.

[cailin maith]

We recently had our first - I'm 46 and she had the child days before her 40th birthday. Hearing all the stuff about risks and lack of fertility, we were really concerned. We were very fortunate in that the pregnancy and birth went well and the conception was way easier than the stats would have you believe.

Of course I will be old when my kid's still in education, but not much I can do about that now - I have wanted children since my 30s - I just spent too much time married to the wrong woman and too much time getting divorced and meeting someone else to have had a proper chance before now.

Our experience has been 100% positive and encouraging.

Hear, hear..... sometimes life happens ass about face, but you know what.... thats sometimes how it all works out.

[Peoplesoft bloke]

My missus is about to turn 40 and she is talking about a second baby.

I know the risks are much greater.

trying to stay positive but statisics tell me otherwise...

Anyone's missus had a baby over 40? all good?

We recently had our first - I'm 46 and she had the child days before her 40th birthday. Hearing all the stuff about risks and lack of fertility, we were really concerned. We were very fortunate in that the pregnancy and birth went well and the conception was way easier than the stats would have you believe.

Of course I will be old when my kid's still in education, but not much I can do about that now - I have wanted children since my 30s - I just spent too much time married to the wrong woman and too much time getting divorced and meeting someone else to have had a proper chance before now.

Our experience has been 100% positive and encouraging.

[TykeMerc]

WHS. Fast forward 18yrs, when you/your missus is 60 you'll still be funding the offspring through university. When I'm 55 my youngest will have just left and I'll be taking my 25% tax free pension.

Talking of the snip, who's had one then? (Missus M is currently harping on at me about this).

I had it done when my youngest son was 2 years old.

My sister had twin girls when she was 40, I must admit I don't envy her having children at that age. My eldest was born when I was 25 and my youngest when I was 31, while the first was somewhat unplanned on balance I prefer the idea of them all finishing education long before I'm at state retirement age.

[Sockpuppet]

Talking of the snip, who's had one then? (Missus M is currently harping on at me about this).

Tell her to have it done then.

[moorfield]

WHS. Fast forward 18yrs, when you/your missus is 60 you'll still be funding the offspring through university. When I'm 55 my youngest will have just left and I'll be taking my 25% tax free pension.

Talking of the snip, who's had one then? (Missus M is currently harping on at me about this).

[stackpole]

My missus is about to turn 40 and she is talking about a second baby.

I know the risks are much greater.

trying to stay positive but statisics tell me otherwise...

Anyone's missus had a baby over 40? all good?

There's a much higher probability of birth defects. But most of these are minor, and she should be tested for significant things like Downs Syndrome.

Playing devil's advocate however, don't hang about because although your missus might be fit, healthy and full of energy at 40, she'll be slowing down at 50 when the child is still at junior school, and could reach her retirement age when the child is still in full-time education.

[NotAllThere]

Me and the missus are just about 40. Our oldest is nearly 17, our youngest is 11. I'm so glad I had the snip 7 years ago... We'll both prefer being grandparents - when they look sick, or start to smell, we can given 'em back to the parents.

Grandchildren - natures revenge on your children.

[BrilloPad]

I reckon a few months bench-time would have been a better idea. Or servants (but not extended in-law visits)

[d000hg]

"Risks are greater" is a dumb phrase. If chance of a problem goes from 1 in a million to 1 in 100,000 this isn't a big deal. If it goes to 1 in 10, it is.

[Diver]

http://pregnancyover44y.blogspot.com...-birth-to.html